eBaum Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 What personalities or behavior do you like about a guy? How he looks? Is he rich? Is he kind? Sporty? What you hate about them? He is hairy? He is ugly? I want to know thanks
Katherineos123 Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Im going to have to say humor is the number one, most important facet I look for in a man, in any person really. If you cant make me laugh, and if you dont find me funny Im not going to want anything to do with you. He must be kind. He must be able to be compassionate. I dont like men who fight, or who are agressive. Thats a BIG turn off. I like a little romance, nothing too showy, but sweet forget-me-nots will ALWAYS make me swoon, something as little as leaving a note on my car. Thats what its all about. I of course need to also be attracted to said male, so attractiveness come into play as well, but whether or not he's "rich" doesnt really cross my mind. Im not rich, but I fend for myself, I dont expect my boyfriend to support me, so its a non issue.... Of course, I dont want to be supporting HIM either.... So, he's gotta be able to stand on his own two feet
Zorie Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 I've been attracted to many different types of men, but the biggest qualities on my list would be confidence and a sense of humor. I love a man that can make me laugh and some guys have an endearing laugh (this is what attracted me to my ex-husband) A little sarcasm is good but without being cocky. Also someone who is kind and affectionate and not afraid to show that side of themselves. As far as looks, i don't have a particular type obviously good hygene is important and a natural attraction must be there. One thing that bugged me recently on a date was we went to a nice restaurant and he showed up with the most wrinkled shirt ive ever seen!! It looked aweful and was a total turnoff! Even if a guy doesnt iron, please at least get your shirt pressed at the cleaners for a date lol I've been out with richer and poorer men and the ones I enjoy spending the most time with are the ones who enjoy what they do in life (regardless of how much they make) are ambitious and financially responsible and stable. A rich guy that throws all his money around (because he can) is unattractive to me. Thats it for the most part
stepka Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 What they said plus this--I like a man who has a spiritual element to his personality--not a religious person exactly, but someone who asks the Big Questions. What I hate is someone who can never give a compliment. It's not like I need someone following me around telling me how beautiful I am 50X a day, but every now and then a sincere compliment would be nice. Yes, I was married for 25 years to someone who never complimented and when he did it sounded false. The thing is, the only aphodisiac a woman needs is to know that her man finds her hot and if she never knows whether he does, well it's hard to get going in the bedroom. Even if nothing is said, that "hot-eyed" look can do wonders (assuming it's from your SO, not a casual stranger!)
D-Jam Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 From my male standpoint, it shows every woman is different...and there isn't no one or two answers that covers all women. You could assume all women want athletic types with a full head of hair, and then see girls out dating average joes who are bald. You could say they all want wealthy guys, but see the wealthy guy alone while the lower income males are in relationships. Seems like the ONLY things I find most women say are "confident", "fun", "interesting", and "is good to women".
Ruby Slippers Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Like: Intelligent, compassionate, focused (not restless and distractable), down-to-earth, loyal, expressive, loving, creative, sexual and sensual, adventurous, positive. Dislike: Arrogant, afraid of commitment, superficial, materialistic, metrosexual, cynical, egoistic, poor diet, not good in bed.
beefburrito Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 really the first thing i look at is how funny the guy is, cause if he can make me laugh then thats all it takes. and usualy a fun, sweet personality is good too.. looks arent the most important thing but it wouldnt be bad if they took care of them self and looked nice. smart guys are very attractive and usualy not smokers/drinkers. and for sure you have to be faithful if your getting into a seriosu relationship.
mr.dream merchant Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 Now for the ladies who say they want a guy who can make them laugh. If you're already taken, and you have a male friend/co-worker who can always make you laugh, more so than your BF/Husband, does that make him attractive to you? Does it make him a candidate who's held back due to your status?
stepka Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 From my male standpoint, it shows every woman is different...and there isn't no one or two answers that covers all women. You could assume all women want athletic types with a full head of hair, and then see girls out dating average joes who are bald. You could say they all want wealthy guys, but see the wealthy guy alone while the lower income males are in relationships. Seems like the ONLY things I find most women say are "confident", "fun", "interesting", and "is good to women". You could assume that but you'd be wrong--baldness is not unattractive at all, though the comb-over is. I'd like a man to be in shape b/c I want him around as long as I plan to be, but athletic would maybe not be attractive to me, b/c I hate sports. Interesting and funny would mean different things to different people, so I wouldn't worry about it if you think you're not funny--you might be funny to me or someone else. I don't think I'd want to be with the class clown--sometimes it's good to be serious--maybe what we mean is that we want someone we can laugh with. As for confidence, well I find the shy sweet ones appealing but it's hard to get a date with them since I'm a bit on the shy side myself. I'm amused when I have to help them out:rolleyes:
IrishCarBomb Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 Women want a man who is gullible, rich, and doesn't ask for prenuptial agreements or paternity tests.... right?
Katherineos123 Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 Women want a man who is gullible, rich, and doesn't ask for prenuptial agreements or paternity tests.... right? Pfffffffffttttt....
Ocean-Blue Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 OK, this is both a hate and love of mine... Why does he look at the world so differently? Men seem to be wired differently!!! Regardless of what people say, it seems men and women think differently. Sometimes, it feels like we're in two different worlds. I don't know that I necessarily "hate" this, but I do know that it irks me at times. It seems we see things so differently at times. Especially when it comes to emotions.
colosseum Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 OK, this is both a hate and love of mine... Why does he look at the world so differently? Men seem to be wired differently!!! Regardless of what people say, it seems men and women think differently. Sometimes, it feels like we're in two different worlds. I don't know that I necessarily "hate" this, but I do know that it irks me at times. It seems we see things so differently at times. Especially when it comes to emotions. Lol, man can invent writing, build the pyramids, discover relativity, go to the moon, and paint the Sistine chapel, but the one thing we can't do is figure out women, and frankly I don't think we will. Your quesitons, ocean-blue, have haunted mankind for all history, and it will for all eternity. Lol, can't have your cake and eat it too, Ocean-Blue.
colosseum Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 But regarding OP: sense of humor can be so different for people, yeah? Best example I can think of is why people like certain comedians over others. Seems like that's another quality that would be totally subjective...? Though I will admit confidence & compassion seems indisputable.
monkeymaid Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 heres your answer. put aside personality as a factor, and all women want a man who is a) a man b)confident c) a good caretaker/provider/whateverthepersonalitesdeterminethisroletobe d) can understand and appreciate her emotional needs men speek 2 languages "bull****" and "logic" when in reality to be succesful we need to speak "emotion" too women speak "emotion" and thats it. sometimes they speak logic, sometimesthey understand bull****, but they are so damn hormonal, that their brain is hardwired to speak only through emotions 100% of the time. but ill tell you what i love all of you women!!
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