Bells Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 I was wondering, with all the divorces that are going. And I'm sure you have a LOT Of friends who married their high school sweethearts that married, are divorced at least one time. Well, I'm not sure if it has to do with geographic location, but I've looked up some of my friends on FB and surprisingly, some are still married to their highschool sweethearts or married to the same person that they've married very young to (like early 20's) I wonder if it has to do with rural locations though, like are these people still together because if they divorce, they know that dating is going to be impossible for them? Or because it happens that their spouses never "let themselves going' regardless of her having had 3 kids and still having a rockin body on her/him. Or somehow were lucky enough to not fall into the mainstream of all the divorces that occur these days, that they some how dodged it. OR, maybe they actually work at their marriages? Ever been back to a HS Reunion and were shocked to see the same couple that dated in HS still MARRIED today? Do you know of people who marrid their HS Sweetheart or quite young and are still married to this day?
socialight Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 >>maybe they actually work at their marriages? I would wager that it is this one. My best friend from a very early grade married a girl he met in junior high. They have been a couple for over 20 years. I know their relationship has had several rocky patches. But the bottom line is they have their faith and they are not quitters. A marriage of 2 people can be strong but generally a marriage of 3 (man, wife, god) is usually much stronger.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 I can think of at least 9 of my friends on FB that met either IN HS or like a year or two after and are still married/together. Like 4 of them are: my brother and 3 of his friends. I'll agree with social that RELIGION seems to be a big factor in the majority (if not all of them) staying together/on track. I can't agree with the rural thing - the majority of these people also live near a large city - a city that has hosted an Olympic games. So no, there are no lack of options if they chose to move on. Oh - did want to add that my BF's parents got married at like 18/19 - been married 35 years. They're very happy (and cute) together.
Author Bells Posted March 19, 2009 Author Posted March 19, 2009 >>maybe they actually work at their marriages? I would wager that it is this one. My best friend from a very early grade married a girl he met in junior high. They have been a couple for over 20 years. I know their relationship has had several rocky patches. But the bottom line is they have their faith and they are not quitters. A marriage of 2 people can be strong but generally a marriage of 3 (man, wife, god) is usually much stronger. I would have to say Christianity does play a role. I know a couple that had been together since HS (She was a freshman JV Cheerleader and he was a Varsity football player....yeah I know , classic stereotype, lol) And they are together TOO This day, family is pretty religious though...Funny, their cousin who lives down the road from me, REAL cutie too, but has a princess complex...is still single. There goes that theory of, "The younger you marry, the HIGHER chance you'll wind up in divorce" I was talking to this girl at a Christian bookstore, apparently her close friends that are still seniors in High school were engaged before even graduating. And she was "fawning" on how romantic it was. And I made the remark, "Did you know that marriages at that age are likely to wind up in divorce, but perhaps this'll work, who knows" LOL She kind of gave me a dirty look, I think I became a buzzkill there, lol. And I go, "What?? it's true! I mean I'm not saying it'll happen to them, but that's what the statistics say!" When I was 18, I had no interest at ALL in getting married.
Star Gazer Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 I went to high school in a VERY small town. FFA was a large club there. There are at least 10 couples who married their high school sweetheart and are still married...but guess what? They never left that town. Not even to attend college. They literally graduated and never left. They chose to limit their options.
GoodOnPaper Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Do you know of people who marrid their HS Sweetheart or quite young and are still married to this day? Yes -- my parents. They married at 19. Both from the same small town. I felt I was ancient for getting married at 26. I think rural, conservative values have a lot to do with it. I see it now. I'm a university professor in a rural area similar to where my parents are from. In 2009, the female students here are MUCH more marriage-minded (many run to the altar as soon as they get their diplomas) than the female students (mostly from suburban Chicago) at my alma mater in the '80s.
justme2781 Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 my aunt and uncle have known each other since 6th grade and have been married for 35 years! i gues those were different times, they were from a nice part of jersey.
confused_2008 Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 My best friends parents did, for one. I'm only 22 and I know of a few couples my age that are already married or heading that direction for sure. Again, I grew up in a small town and these couples probably won't be leaving the area. I agree with the other posters about religion being a big part of it as well as people having not having the same "grass is greener" complex.
D-Jam Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 I think a lot of them know what a marriage means, and they value the idea. They are probably not thinking they need to stay single for college so they can bang a ton of people, or "explore the world", or see if there's a BBD out there. They instead see it as they found the right person and aren't going to toss that away on hopes. They can explore the world and be married, as well as do other things in life (just not other people). I can understand when someone young doesn't want to get married, but I still think it's foolish to think you are "supposed" to be single in your late teens and early 20s to "sow your wild oats" and then think someone perfect will be waiting for you come 26-30. It's why I see too many out there end up alone and bitter in their 30s...wondering where their prince or princess is. As for those who marry in those earlier years and divorce, I keep seeing the same reasons. Either someone wanted to see/date/sleep with other people, or the couple faced problems and didn't work hard enough to fix them with both sides being compromising and understanding.
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