Hobbes Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 My wife and I have been married for 12 yrs and dated in High school. After a 7 year split we met up again and married. Right now we are in the middle of a divorce. The problems are. 1. I don't believe in divorce unless there is abuse, and 2 the kids, The kids are the main problem. We adopted them 3 yrs ago. We brought them into our home and told them this is what a family is supposed to be like. I NEVER LIE TO MY KIDS!!!!!!! Now I have to tell them that I don't live with them and this is the way a family is. We went through a temporary separation about 3 yrs after we were first married(she didn't understand that we were a couple and she was no longer a single entity, major life change) and now the same problems are up(we just did a major move,plus getting the kids, major life change). Her true colors came out when she started asking about things that she has no rights to(I understand equity in marriage). I have been accommodating to what she wants, mainly because I don't want my kids to have to deal with this(they are my kids no matter who gave birth to them). Just mainly venting here, but don't think my kids will ever understand any of this. And that really pisses me off..........
suzanne2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 It will definatley be hard on them, but kids are wonderfully resiliant and they will bonce back. The main think here is that you need to take care of yourself and get all of your ducks in a row. If she is leaving there is nothing that you can do to stop her. You have to let her go. Now, concentrate on yourself and your kids. Are they living with you or her? What are the particlaurs of custody?
imagine Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Do the kids get divided between you? How old are the kids now? Explain more details of your divorce?
lostsunsets Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Her true colors came out when she started asking about things that she has no rights to(I understand equity in marriage). I have been accommodating to what she wants, mainly because I don't want my kids to have to deal with this(they are my kids no matter who gave birth to them). Just mainly venting here, but don't think my kids will ever understand any of this. And that really pisses me off.......... In this anonymous forum it is safe to be more specific. What does "Her true colors came out when she started asking about things that she has no rights to(I understand equity in marriage)." mean?
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