xenomaniac Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 We always hear the same cautionary tales about not hooking up too soon for fear of losing the thrill, the chase, and forcing a relationship to abort itself before it even starts. But really? For once, let's hear the success stories. Yes, it IS possible to sleep with someone very early on and still cultivate a relationship with them. If it feels right, it feels right. Share your experiences! I'll post mine in a bit.
lostsunsets Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Met my wife when I was in the navy. 2 dates aboard my ship (I was on restriction) about 3 hours each time. Second time I went home for the weekend had sex. We've been married 29 years next week.
pinkmarble Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 My boyfriend and I had sex on our first date. We've been together over five years now. The sex was great the first night, and got even greater as I fell in love with him. It's nice to have found someone who really pushes the right buttons... It still excites me every time he even brushes against me. Our relationship has lasted through several years and several periods of long distance relationshipping.
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Are we just counting success stories? I've had about 6 depending on what your definition of "is" is. So far nothing long term.
Cherished Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 My sister and brother-in-law....it wasn't even a real date, she had met him that DAY passing out flyers for a campus organization in college....they started talking, he asked her if she wanted to go grab a bite to eat at the restaurant across the street....one thing led to another.... Happily married 14 years.
chrissreef Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 anything is possible... statistically 10% of cheaters actually marry and 3% of those actually last more than 4 years... so if you ask for those, then yes, all you will get are success stories. For your question, I'm like 0:4... every time the girl either says they just wanted to be F'd or that we "moved to fast" and it scared them off Now I wait until someone says "i love you"... and will only kiss on a first date.
Cherished Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Cheating really has nothing to do with it. How did that get into the conversation? You are saying that if a woman would sleep with a guy on the first date, she is probably a cheater? WTF?
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 My friend met his wife of 3 years at a bar. They were both really drunk, went home and had sex. They told their families that they met at a restaurant and exchanged numbers :bunny:
chrissreef Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Cheating really has nothing to do with it. How did that get into the conversation? You are saying that if a woman would sleep with a guy on the first date, she is probably a cheater? WTF? no, that's not what i'm saying. i'm just throwing out other statistics. for example, i could say "2% of people get a 4.0 GPA in college", if you ask for 4.0 GPA success stories, all you will get are success stories. I think it's a good thread, I would have prefered to know what % actually work our and what % doesn't. Anyway, sorry for the thread diversion!!!
bobdole Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 My gf and I had sex on the beach the first night we met. We lasted nearly 3 years, but its just about over as of this past sunday (aren't officially broke up simply because we haven't spoke since but I've made up my mind).
Cherished Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Oh, I see what you're saying and I completely agree with you. no, that's not what i'm saying. i'm just throwing out other statistics. for example, i could say "2% of people get a 4.0 GPA in college", if you ask for 4.0 GPA success stories, all you will get are success stories. I think it's a good thread, I would have prefered to know what % actually work our and what % doesn't. Anyway, sorry for the thread diversion!!!
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 How about sleeping together on the second date when there was zero touching (and no clear chemistry) on the first date and more than a month went by between the first and second dates? I can't say for sure, yet, if it's going to be long term, but I sure hope so. Been together 2 months since then, we talk about the future a lot, have used the "L" word, and spend lots of time together. And I would say that sex is not the focal point of our relationship at all. Sleeping together early totally goes against my beliefs (I'm not going to justify what I did), so I'd be interested to know a success rate.
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