Heather1 Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 You did the right thing by telling your H, that's exactly what M is about. It's going to come up for both of you at some time, it just hit you first. As for why, I can only say my "crush" 10 yrs ago is now a total alcoholic sitting on a barstool & single. My Dad is an alcoholic, my H is not, & no matter what I do I'm drawn to the familiar. Whatever this guy brings out in you may not really be what you think, if that makes sense. It takes a long time to get over the feelings. I now work for this guy's family, but have no feelings for him. We never did have a PA. I didn't know for years how much this guy actually drank either, so I didn't pick up on the alcoholism. Don't freak, it's not the end of the world. The WORST thing you can do is tell the guy you have a crush, cuz that sets the timer. Hope that helps. Just be glad you're married to your H & not some of the people judging. This is life, feelings don't just shut down on others because your married. Don't admit to OP, don't confide in him, be polite, and you'll be fine.
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 31, 2009 Posted March 31, 2009 My real advice for the OP is to stop being a hypocrite - promising love and exclusivity to one man, while entertaining ideas of fcking another man. She can do it and it's totally cool with me, I do not judge people for being sexual beings and having the drive. I just don't like hypocrisy and fake promises, because it might hurt other people (her husband in this instance). Hmmm I wonder would you feel so happy with herpes outbreak over your genital area, or hiv? I mean hey it's all good right, condoms dont break! you cant catch std's right? ...jack in the box.
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