kizik Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 So, I'm a guy, my roommate is a girl. We get along fine, for the most part. But she brings her arrogant douchebag BF over a couple times a week and they have LOUD sex LATE and keep me up. We've been over this a month ago. She apologized and it hasn't happened badly since. That is, until last night. Wall-banging?! Dance music past midnight?! I have to freaking work in the morning. I left her a kind note explaining my problem, recalling that we had an agreement that it would be quiet after 11PM. I do not plan on staying in this apartment forever, but what suggestions do you guys have for making it peaceful for now?
Dexter Morgan Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 Profess your love for her. You know this to be true. I suspect you are jealous of the bf because of the hostility towards him.
WTRanger Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 What kind of lease do you two have? Is she leasing from you, is it joint, separate? I think you just need to corner her and show her that the noise will not stand and that it's not fair to you. I mean if that is all your are asking of her is to be quiet after 11 so you can sleep for work, I'd love to have had a roommate like you.
pinkmarble Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 I think you handled it well. But don't feel like you can't interrupt their sex session to tell them to be quiet. If they are okay with being loud enough that you can hear, it's no longer a private event. Knock on the door and tell her instead of leaving a note. At least then you'll be able to get your sleep.
Author kizik Posted March 18, 2009 Author Posted March 18, 2009 Profess your love for her. You know this to be true. I suspect you are jealous of the bf because of the hostility towards him. Haha, that's funny b/c I was actually attracted to her at first, but after getting to know her, I don't think she's hot at all, and she has proven to be a selfish brat. What kind of lease do you two have? Is she leasing from you, is it joint, separate? I think you just need to corner her and show her that the noise will not stand and that it's not fair to you. I mean if that is all your are asking of her is to be quiet after 11 so you can sleep for work, I'd love to have had a roommate like you. WTR, I'm not on a lease at all, which will make it much easier to move out. Good advice about the "cornering". You're right, I'm not asking a lot. I think you handled it well. But don't feel like you can't interrupt their sex session to tell them to be quiet. If they are okay with being loud enough that you can hear, it's no longer a private event. Knock on the door and tell her instead of leaving a note. At least then you'll be able to get your sleep. Good advice pink. It's embarrassing but they deserve it. Thanks for the replies. Anyone else?
WTRanger Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 I've also done this to a former roommate of mine who wouldn't also respect not having sex so loud. You can either give play-by-play commentary during their sessions, or tell the guy that is rhythm is all off and that you've seen more coordination between two epileptics sharing a bowl of noodles. You can also comment that when it's over that it sure was a short session and you can refer him to a doctor that can make things last a bit longer. Or comment when your roommate is around that you are nearly as much of a one pump chump as her boyfriend is, and that if she ever wants a good deep-dicking to stop by your room. Don't be afraid to stoop to a low level to deal with this. If you can't fight them, join them.
Author kizik Posted March 18, 2009 Author Posted March 18, 2009 I've also done this to a former roommate of mine who wouldn't also respect not having sex so loud. You can either give play-by-play commentary during their sessions, or tell the guy that is rhythm is all off and that you've seen more coordination between two epileptics sharing a bowl of noodles. You can also comment that when it's over that it sure was a short session and you can refer him to a doctor that can make things last a bit longer. Or comment when your roommate is around that you are nearly as much of a one pump chump as her boyfriend is, and that if she ever wants a good deep-dicking to stop by your room. Don't be afraid to stoop to a low level to deal with this. If you can't fight them, join them. Funny stuff there Ranger. I will not be stooping to any low levels though, dude. My personal integrity is more important than that.
northstar1 Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 Funny stuff there Ranger. I will not be stooping to any low levels though, dude. My personal integrity is more important than that. hey kiz I know this situation well, had it once with a roomate and his gf. I'd wait and see her reply (was this by email, or note?) and act from there. Hopefully she has a brain and understands respect I ended up sending him an email, telling him that while I liked the apartment and living with him, that it was making it hard to sleep and was affecting work etc etc. Things did improve for a while, but eventually, I just got fed up and got a new place. Some people just dont' get it and are inconsiderate.
Author kizik Posted March 18, 2009 Author Posted March 18, 2009 (was this by email, or note?) Hey north, it was by note, left on the floor b/c she and her dipsh*t BF were making breakfast. You're right, some people are inconsiderate and will never change. Since I'm not on a lease, I'm thinking about moving out in June. Who knows, if things improve I won't move at all, but as you say, they rarely do improve. Her response will surely be defensive and I'm sure she'll wrack her brain trying to come back with things I do that she doesn't like. Here's the bottom line: it needs to be quiet after 11PM. That's it. Everything else does not matter to me.
northstar1 Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 Hey north, it was by note, left on the floor b/c she and her dipsh*t BF were making breakfast. You're right, some people are inconsiderate and will never change. Since I'm not on a lease, I'm thinking about moving out in June. Who knows, if things improve I won't move at all, but as you say, they rarely do improve. Her response will surely be defensive and I'm sure she'll wrack her brain trying to come back with things I do that she doesn't like. Here's the bottom line: it needs to be quiet after 11PM. That's it. Everything else does not matter to me. Does this girl have a job? My roommate worked from home, so he never seemed to grasp that when you have to get up early for work, you can't be going to bed at 3am. Yep, you have a valid point, she can't really argue it.
Author kizik Posted March 18, 2009 Author Posted March 18, 2009 Does this girl have a job? My roommate worked from home, so he never seemed to grasp that when you have to get up early for work, you can't be going to bed at 3am. Yeah, she works at 11AM most days so she should be sympathetic. Ugh, these conflicts give me such a pit in the stomach. Can't wait to go home... not.
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