Nubemeister Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 I just lost my best friend. Not in the sense that they are dead but as in our friendship no longer exists. We were no longer talking as much, and pretty much somewhere down the line we just forgot we were there in general. So I started to talk to her about it and she agreed that we no longer were like we used to be. So we decided that a friendship forced is not what we want...and after 9 years of being friends we terminated it. IT feels sad bc she was a friend ive known for awhile and I never thought I would one day lose the friendship. Especially hers...was it the right thing to do?
bubbles5 Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 Listen to me she is your friend so she is going to come back to you no matter how much you fight , i would suggest go n talk to her, or pretend that nothing happened everything was fine ,try acting for few days or month n that pretend slowly steadily will let you know why she said to break up a friendship, see putting down ego is important dont feel that she isnt caring and all ,,, she may be caring ,its just she wont be showing around,,, talk to her like you just met a new friend,, just dont talk abt what fight n break up happened ,act as if nothing happened ,you have to be different personality then your original personality,, see it will bridge all ur differences on its own,, let me know then what happens
Frankasy Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 You lost a friend, not your newborn son during birth, stop making such a big deal out of it. I've said here before that friends are overrated, especially best friends. You're gonna be close with them, afterwords for a certain reason you don't talk anymore. Once you're not in talking terms anymore, they start talking bad about you, like you two were enemies, start telling people your secrets etc. Second, she was a female which is tricky cause you could develop feelings for her during time and afterwords feel bad when she's with someone else. I'm sure about this cause the same thing is happening to me, I'm beginning to consider my friend of 10 years more than just a friend but she doesn't know yet and I'm kinda in a dilemma when to tell her. Basically what I'm saying is that you still got lots of years in front of you, you lost one but you can make another right away, not a big deal.
Meaplus3 Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 It's only natural to feel sad. You have suffered a loss here. 9 years is a long time to be friends with someone. If you both agree the friendship is not working than it's for the best that it came to an end. You will make others friend's. Try not to worry to much. Mea:)
Author Nubemeister Posted March 20, 2009 Author Posted March 20, 2009 Thanks everyone, well see what happens:)
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