LovemeinTX Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 I think I fell in love with my guy friend, nothing has happened between us but I know in my heart that he feels the same way I do. ( Not making excuses but I want to give a clear view of why this might have happened) I've been married for 10 years, it wasn't until we had our child that we really started having problems. We seem to be going in different directions. I changed who I was for my child and he stayed the same...I started resenting him for that. He has a drinking problem that has added much stress to our marriage. We never fight but we talk and I'm tired of talking but I am trying to make our marriage work...Then... I began talking with this friend of mine and he made me feel alive again. We constantly flirt and spend as much time together making lame excuses for conversations just to be with each other a bit longer. There is an attraction there. Here's my question, I feel that we will never do anything about it because we can't... I'm Married! So the question is Should I just come clean to my friend and with all sincerity let him know how I feel so that I can finally let him go? I just can't keep going on like this, I want to save my marriage but the feelings I have for my friend are always there and I can't bare to think that I may lose his friendship all together. We are adults, I think some honesty might be good... I just want to let him go! This is breaking my heart... I am crying as I'm thinking of what might have been had I only met him first. I'm hoping that by talking with him we can both began to move forward with our lives and get back to the way we were before we developed feelings for each other. It hurts him as much as it hurts me... I'm completely at a loss. I also want to say that, I realize something has happened and that if not physical , an emotional relationship has developed with this man. I just need some advice.
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