Insucure jeaslous boyfriend, or just reasonably concerned?

[Qwez]

This is not related to me, I am just helping a good friend figure a situation out.

 

Ok, here’s a scenario…

 

There’s this cute girl sitting in class lonely working on ideas for her final art project. This girl is in a relationship. She has a huge passion for music and one of her favorite bands EVER is “Kill Switch Engage”.

 

After a lecture in class, she stopped focusing on what the professor was saying, and noticed that one of her classmates was wearing a KSE t-shirt, it was really cool. She had no idea there was someone in her class that had similar taste in music as she does.

 

This girl innocently strikes up a conversation with this guy when she gets the chance to just because she likes talking to people with common interest. She has no intentions on flirting with this guy or leading him on, because she is already in a relationship.

 

This guy just happens to have extra tickets to a KSE concert scheduled for next week, and invites her to go with him and maybe a couple of his friends. Because she has such an incredible passion for this band, she gladly accepts the invitation and is extremely excited to go.

 

She tells her boyfriend about the great day in class she had and how her classmate invited her to go to a KSE show. The boyfriend does not like this idea at all. She is somewhat surprised. She doesn’t think he has a good reason to be upset. In her mind, she feels he should trust her completely and not be concerned when she hangs out with guy friends, because she likes him, and not them. She feels he is acting immature and jealous. The boyfriend explains how he doesn’t mind if she hangs out with other guys, he just feels uncomfortable with her hanging out with other guys that might try to hook-up with her. And the situation that she explained to him gives him the impression this guy is trying to hook up with her.

 

This girl goes’ to the concert with her classmate.

 

*Did the boyfriend over-react?

*Was the classmate being flirtatious?

*Should the boyfriend have a problem with his girlfriend going out with her classmate?

*Should Boyfriend have a problem with girlfriend hanging out with guys that have a crush on her?

[Trialbyfire]

This is a situation of selfishness. She put her interests over her b/fs feelings. He put his feelings over her wants. Something's gotta' give.

• If she was such a big fan of this band, why wouldn't she have a pair of tickets already, for her and her b/f?
  
• If it was such a major concern for the b/f why wouldn't he have purchased two tickets, especially since he knew she loved this band above all?
  
• Did this classmate know she had a b/f?