griffy Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Would you stay in a relationship with someone you weren't in love with? I mean, would you stay for a long time, not just date? I was with my ex for 3 years and I don't think he was ever in love with me. He never said he was. I really couldn't depend on him for much. Basically, anything that required him to change his life/schedule in any was out of the question. Occasionally we would do something I wanted to do, but he would make me pay by being a whiny brat about it. Also, I don't think he was one of those people who hates being alone or who needs to be in a relationship, so why didn't he just decide to be alone? So, would you stay in a relationship for years with someone you didn't love just because they didn't expect much from you? I'm curious to hear if men answer this differently than women.
JohnnyBlaze Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 No. I don't care how much or how little someone expects from me; if I'm not in love with her, it's over. Then again, I'm not a good casual dater; I'm more of the "hopeless romantic" type. If I don't feel any love after even a few weeks, I end the relationship. Three years is certainly more than enough for anyone. By that time, I'd probably have considered her serious lifetime material and considered proposing to her (if I hadn't already).
Author griffy Posted March 17, 2009 Author Posted March 17, 2009 Glad to hear you wouldn't stay with someone you didn't love. I think that is a cruel thing to do, especially if the other person loves you. So maybe he did love me, he just didn't know how to say it or show it? (I realize how ridiculous that sounds!) I definitely loved him. Is it possible that he liked the feeling of being loved so much that it was enough to make him stay?
lammie Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 I once had a boyfriend i never loved, it was 2 years and LDR too. I was young, and i just had my first heart break before i started seeing him. At first it was fun, guess he was my rebound guy... always thought to give him a chance. I know he loved me more than i loved him. I was more in love of the idea of being in love. I couldn't break up with him knowing what a heartache felt like, i just didn't have the heart to hurt him. Sometimes people just like being in a relationship even though it wasn't very good, it's the feeling of belonging and the sake for being in one.
Cal999 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 "Would you stay in a relationship with someone you weren't in love with?" No - it's like parents saying "we're staying together for the kids" Don't make yourself miserable for someone else, and if I felt like someone I was with didn't love me like I love them...I'm out of there
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