reallygreatguy Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Having been on a road to divorce for a while now, I have now found myself involved/loving/infatuated with 3 women that I care very much about. One lives out of town 4 hours away, one I have been seeing for a while who is 30 (I'm 43) and a 3rd is an old friend that i just got in touch with again, who is about ready to break up w/bf. What is my problem? I just love being with all of them?
Dexter Morgan Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Do women in the future a favor....dont ever marry again. Seems you can't handle being faithful to just one.
Shygirl15 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 What is my problem? I just love being with all of them? Don't you think it's more easier for you than us to figure that one out?
Lippy2 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Do they know about each other? Or do they think you are just dating them? Are you seperated from you wife?
Author reallygreatguy Posted March 17, 2009 Author Posted March 17, 2009 They dont know. I guess its not really dating. The out of town one is my old high school sweetheart who is getting divorced soon. The other is my office manager who knows I'm married.
Lippy2 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Then what are you doing with these women, if not dating them? What is it that you want? Do you know? Do these women have feelings for you?
Trialbyfire Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Are you seperated from you wife?You haven't answered this question, OP. Are you separated?
Author reallygreatguy Posted March 17, 2009 Author Posted March 17, 2009 My wife and I are living together but that's it. No relationship. I just wanna spend time w/ someone and be happy. Wife and I don't get along at all.
Trialbyfire Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 So, what's stopping you from separating, so you can have the freedom to make use of your bowl of wheaties?
Lippy2 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Could use a bit more info. Are you getting divorced? Kids?
Author reallygreatguy Posted March 17, 2009 Author Posted March 17, 2009 Please click one of the Quick Reply icons in the posts above to activate Quick Reply.
2sure Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 If you were in fact divorced, and newly single again I would say that your feelings and behavior are completely normal. You could simply be enjoying the feeling of freedom if it was an unhappy marriage. But your divorced, you live with your wife. Why on earth would 3 women be happy with you if you are still married ? Why not divorce so you can really enjoy yourself?
Meaplus3 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Having been on a road to divorce for a while now, I have now found myself involved/loving/infatuated with 3 women that I care very much about. One lives out of town 4 hours away, one I have been seeing for a while who is 30 (I'm 43) and a 3rd is an old friend that i just got in touch with again, who is about ready to break up w/bf. What is my problem? I just love being with all of them? If your having feelings for these other woman and your a MM then My guess is that something is truly missing in your marriage and you need to figure that out. What is so special about these woman that attracts you to them? Mea:)
Author reallygreatguy Posted March 17, 2009 Author Posted March 17, 2009 I have kids and my wife want to work it out. But in my mind I don't want to be w/her anymore. Just worried about the kids. 9 ,12 and 15. Thx for all the advice
Lippy2 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Have you been to counseling with her or even just yourself?
Meaplus3 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 I have kids and my wife want to work it out. But in my mind I don't want to be w/her anymore. Just worried about the kids. 9 ,12 and 15. Thx for all the advice You now they say you should try everything before leaving, this way you have NO regrets. How about a Marriage counsleor? Why do you not want your wife anymore? Mea:)
2sure Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Reallygreatguy - You have said here and in other posts that you are completely done with your wife, have no interest in her , have been unhappy for 19 years. AND that your wife enjoys sex when you have it and wants to stay with the marriage. You have also previously said that you would be willing to support your children. Well thats good...because you know, willing or not, you will have to. Does your wife know that you have been "on the road" to divorce for "quite some time"? Do these other 3 women know that you feel you may be in love with them? Do any of the three have similar feelings for you? It doesnt sound like you are having affairs, are you?
Author reallygreatguy Posted March 17, 2009 Author Posted March 17, 2009 We've been to conselling together and seperate. I just want to end it but she doesn't. We've been married for 15+ years. But I've been to nice not to call it quits before. Problem is now that I have been w/others that like to be close. I have found that I can't go back.
2sure Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Well, you have been with others, so you have cheated - I wasnt clear on that. Im sure if you tell your wife you have cheated and/or have interests in being with other women - she will have a different view of your marriage. At that point, she will let you go. By cheating on her you are becoming not only unhappily married, but the type of man who has little to offer. Leave your marriage if you cannot be happy with your wife - but dont punish her and your kids.
Meaplus3 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 We've been to conselling together and seperate. I just want to end it but she doesn't. We've been married for 15+ years. But I've been to nice not to call it quits before. Problem is now that I have been w/others that like to be close. I have found that I can't go back. Well then if you have given it your all here and can look back with no regrets then file for a divorce. Why put your wife through anymore if you don't love her and never intend to again. But, now how do you intend to juggle three woman here? Sounds like you might be a bit confused. Am I right? Mea:)
griffy Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 WHOA! 3 kids, 3 girlfriends, and a wife. Are you the only guy in town? You've got a lot going on there. You need to simplify! You're having trouble figuring out what to do because you have too much to deal with and too much cluttering up your mind and emotions. You need to take some time and be alone for awhile. (That means move out of the home you share with your wife and don't have any girlfriends.) It seems like you're trying to leave your wife without ever having to actually be alone. This is a mistake, as you need time to self reflect and understand what it is you really want in life. (Hence your confusion right now...) Once you're on your own, once you have some distance from the situation you will gain some perspective and you'll know what to do.
Author reallygreatguy Posted March 17, 2009 Author Posted March 17, 2009 Meaplus3.....what is MM? I love the others cause they love me for who I am and they love what I do in bed, my sweetness I guess. Being tied down for years I guess I obviously liking the freedom. I don't like the bitchy, controlling unfreindly things my wife does. She admitted she's been a bad wife. But its to late can't stand her anymore.
Author reallygreatguy Posted March 17, 2009 Author Posted March 17, 2009 Mea. I am confused. I am tryin to wait til summer when kids r out of school. I not worldly at all. Lived a very sheltered life. I love being w/ and pleasing women. But hate hurting them.
2sure Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 OK, so you are done with the marriage. You want a divorce. You want to be loved and to be happy. You should be! Other than the normal hrdships of every one who divorces...what problem are you having? What issue?
Dexter Morgan Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Also, if you are playing 3 women, you might rethink your LS username.
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