sally4sara Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I don't know why some females get their panties in a bunch about that. If I'm having sex with you, I approve of you. Just because I do not choose to commit to you does not mean you're lacking in anything as a person, as a woman, as a human being - its just my preference. Get over it. If I didn't approve of you I wouldn't give you the pleasure of enjoying my dick. I would find less interest in your dick than you have in the swinging of other men's dicks. Your flapping mouth however........
Trialbyfire Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I wouldn't commit to a chick dating multiple guys at once. If she was tossing me some pussy, I'd take her up on her offer, but that's about it. Just couldn't take a chick like that serious. If you want me to commit you gotta show me your able to dedicate your time to ME and ME only, not me and a bunch of other swingin dicks outs there, rofl get over yourself. You've been reading way too much on the PUA sites and overdoing it. Temper it a bit and realize that while you might be someone worth dating for some young chicklet, you're not exactly presenting yourself as a balanced man who is prize material.
Citizen Erased Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I wouldn't commit to a chick dating multiple guys at once. If she was tossing me some pussy, I'd take her up on her offer, but that's about it. Just couldn't take a chick like that serious. If you want me to commit you gotta show me your able to dedicate your time to ME and ME only, not me and a bunch of other swingin dicks outs there, rofl get over yourself. Oh my, you are a charmer.
mr.dream merchant Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Why would you dedicate yourself to someone who isn't going to do the same for you? If that were the case I'd be screwing her, her bestfriend, and her sister.
carhill Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Re-visiting, are we talking multiple dating partners or multiple sex partners? If the latter, considering the risks, is there disclosure?
Dexter Morgan Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 It seems to me that the men on this thread who are bitching the most are the ones who probably have a hard time getting a date with a "prize" themselves. Nice try pumpkin:cool:
mr.dream merchant Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Re-visiting, are we talking multiple dating partners or multiple sex partners? If the latter, considering the risks, is there disclosure? Well if it were me doing the multiple-dating, I'd be having sex with multiple partners. Why not? The option is there so might as well take it.
carhill Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Well if it were me doing the multiple-dating, I'd be having sex with multiple partners. Why not? The option is there so might as well take it. No worries. Nothing wrong with a wet noodle. Are the partners up on that path, you know like "I'm non-exclusive sexually" or verbiage similar? If everything is healthy, straight up honesty is healthy as well, right?
mr.dream merchant Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Yeah, if they aren't you certainly can get them open off of your swag. Nah I don't go out expecting some pussy, anyone doing that is going to be let down unless you're at a bar/club. But I promise you I'm in after a couple of dates. I pinky promise. And let me clarify by saying dedicate I mean, being curteous and honest enough to only be talking on that kind of level to that one female. I would not offer her that respect and honesty if she isn't offering it to me. Anything else you'd like to twist around Donna?
carhill Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I'm getting there. I'm getting there! We must remember that each person's path is different. MDM likes variety and a wet noodle. That's a path. He's single. As long as he's honest about that path with the ladies he meets, and they accede, good on him (and them). My path may differ, but it is not my place to judge him. That said, those whom he places his noodle within will judge him, so those are the people to be concerned with and respectful to, IMO
mr.dream merchant Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 A wet bagged noodle if I don't know where she's been at.
carhill Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Well, I would expect that would go without mention, but thanks for that
Dexter Morgan Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Apparently it's not enough since some need to feel that sense of "one and only" right from the get go. Geez, its not about having a sense of "one and only" from the get go. Its about giving someone fair consideration for a couple of dates and seeing where it goes. If it isn't going anywhere, the dating ends. Simple as that.
mr.dream merchant Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I'm not twisting a thing. Posts speak for themselves. How do you know that, after a couple dates, you aren't going to decide you and she aren't a match? No wet noodle there, unless you're THAT type. If I dated some guys and decided I would hit it off on that kind of level with one of them, then he would become the only guy I were dating. That's how it works when you're in high demand. In fact, that's exactly how it worked for me and my guy. In high demand? Lmaooooooo.
mr.dream merchant Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Its all good duke, I'm straight without it.
clv0116 Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Women have always leveraged the fact that they can keep multiple men on the let's just be friends back burner virtually forever without any social repercussions. We all know that most of those friend zoned guys would jump at the chance to move up the chain. When a woman says "well we don't multi-date for MONTHS" I just laugh. Ya sure sister.
Dexter Morgan Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Women have always leveraged the fact that they can keep multiple men on the let's just be friends back burner virtually forever without any social repercussions. We all know that most of those friend zoned guys would jump at the chance to move up the chain. And if these same women found out that we dated behind their backs or dated more than one woman, then obviously we'd be dirty dogs.
sally4sara Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 And if these same women found out that we dated behind their backs or dated more than one woman, then obviously we'd be dirty dogs. Still assuming the worst without proof? If a guy I'm seeing meets someone more compatible than me, oh well. Another will come along. Someone better because he stayed, and I liked it enough to let him. How many dates does that take? As many as it takes. How many dates with you till a lady finds anything unguarded or upbeat about you?
Sam Spade Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 There is not reason to go on more than one date with a person to figure out if *maybe* you'd be interested to get to know them more in terms of relationship potential. Getting more credible info than that requires exclusive dating over the course of at least a couple of months (and having a lot of hanky panky in the process). Going on 3-5 more dinner dates on the disguise of getting to know more adds nothing to the initial, and inevitably superficial info that can be gleaned on data # 1. So, for me the verdict is: multi-dating - if it keeps happening after I've gone on more than one date with a woman - is a dealbreaker. Even if she "choses me" at the end, I wouldn't care for someone with this attitude towards forming relatoinships.
sally4sara Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 There is not reason to go on more than one date with a person to figure out if *maybe* you'd be interested to get to know them more in terms of relationship potential. Getting more credible info than that requires exclusive dating over the course of at least a couple of months (and having a lot of hanky panky in the process). Going on 3-5 more dinner dates on the disguise of getting to know more adds nothing to the initial, and inevitably superficial info that can be gleaned on data # 1. So, for me the verdict is: multi-dating - if it keeps happening after I've gone on more than one date with a woman - is a dealbreaker. Even if she "choses me" at the end, I wouldn't care for someone with this attitude towards forming relatoinships. And then there are the ones who are so rigid and sweeping but still think WE'VE miss out on dating them! How can anyone believe they can know all they need to know about someone in one date? Maybe he's never been on a:lmao: date and doesn't know better? I like how he has gotten this whole formula for how it has to go down if its going to go down. We go out on one date and then I should risk mixing DNA with him for the remaining months it takes to find out if I even know how stupid of a risk it was all along?!
sally4sara Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 See, I would say two since often times folks on a first date are all nervous and not themselves. But I agree that after that it would seem like someone was just in it for free dinner. I do agree its easier to tell I'm NOT compatible with someone. That's why you pay your own bill. Nothing is worse than telling some guy you don't want to go out again, watching his face fall and then get twisted up as he says "You're effing welcome for dinner!" before stomping off. I'd rather say no without guilt.
Sam Spade Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 And then there are the ones who are so rigid and sweeping but still think WE'VE miss out on dating them! How can anyone believe they can know all they need to know about someone in one date? Maybe he's never been on a:lmao: date and doesn't know better? I like how he has gotten this whole formula for how it has to go down if its going to go down. We go out on one date and then I should risk mixing DNA with him for the remaining months it takes to find out if I even know how stupid of a risk it was all along?! Wah, wah, wah. It is up to you if you want to hear what you want to hear. I would not go on a 2nd/3rd date with a woman I'm absolutely positive I want nothing to do with, ever. If I did go out with her again, this does not mean that I have all the information i need for her long term potential - that's impossible - but it means that I'm interested in finding out. The process of finding out sufficiently cannot be short circuited in 3-5 more dates. Which means that I need to actually start to date her and not see other people in the process, since that would undercut/contradict my own intentions. All I expect is the same level of respect in return. (A point apparently lost to single, jaded 35 year olds).
clv0116 Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 And if these same women found out that we dated behind their backs or dated more than one woman, then obviously we'd be dirty dogs. Behind their backs would be sort of cold, but I sure don't provide a dating resume with contact info for every past and present romantic interest. I just let them know I'm not in an exclusive relationship at the moment. Women are more clandestine in that they often deny the true nature of their back burner goto boyfriends behind a smoke and mirrors facade of "just friends". Not only are the poor saps in an indefinite duration holding pattern but they get to provide emotional support when she's unable to get that from her 'main' boyfriend. I've got respect for women like some of the above who are upfront about it, but they are a minority. The vast majority multi-date in a clandestine way, then a few are open about it, and a very very few really don't multi-date at all.
sally4sara Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Wah, wah, wah. It is up to you if you want to hear what you want to hear. I would not go on a 2nd/3rd date with a woman I'm absolutely positive I want nothing to do with, ever. If I did go out with her again, this does not mean that I have all the information i need for her long term potential - that's impossible - but it means that I'm interested in finding out. The process of finding out sufficiently cannot be short circuited in 3-5 more dates. Which means that I need to actually start to date her and not see other people in the process, since that would undercut/contradict my own intentions. All I expect is the same level of respect in return. (A point apparently lost to single, jaded 35 year olds). Some of us can multi-task and some can't. You can't. No reason for you to think it must be that way for everyone else. Unless you're going for Ultimate Hateration '09' I've met some seriously jaded folk of all ages. You trying to be another? And don't get coy; even you know you're jaded so why try to remove yourself from the category you're aiming a snipe at?
carhill Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Women are more clandestine in that they often deny the true nature of their back burner goto boyfriends behind a smoke and mirrors facade of "just friends". Not only are the poor saps in an indefinite duration holding pattern but they get to provide emotional support when she's unable to get that from her 'main' boyfriend. Yes, this has been my experience as well. Trading upon the combination of chivalrous male behavior and the undertones of sexual desire are powerful tools of manipulation. I catch myself getting bit by that dog even though I smell it coming. Bad dog
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