Bells Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 ....even though it isn't serious? I hear a lot of, "Well, I'm talking to someone right now, and I am wanting to see where that goes." line. In the past, I hear that women only date (even though it's not even REMOTELY serious) ONE guy at a time. Even if it's a prospect, OR Even if they haven't even met them in person yet. I have heard women don't like to "Juggle" male prospects. Is this true?
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Women have a harder time compartmentalizing than men. It's simple biology. Our brains are wired so much differently. So I'd say that yes, it's quite common for women to not want to "juggle."
prettybaby Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Well, there are enough threads started by women here who talk about dating different guys at once; so I wouldn't generalize. As far as I'm concerned: I've never dated more than one guy at a time. It just feels weird to me, I don't think I could ever do it.
ruggy Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Would be nice, but I think the women in New York City are a different breed. The ones who know they have the ability to pick in choose do. Just look at my last disaster; and possible impending accident waiting to happen. I think they can (and do). Just depends on the type of woman.
serial muse Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 I have friends (women) who are capable of dating more than one person at a time. I never could, though. I tried it briefly but found it overwhelming and exhausting to "juggle" people. Blech. I guess it feels like it takes a certain amount of focus and energy to get to know a person well enough to know if it could work. But there are certainly people out there who can handle it. Life's a buffet.
bean1 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 For a lot of girls (myself included), we put all our eggs in one basket without even realizing it. I can't think of another guy when I'm interested in another. I've never dated more than one man at a time. I wish I did! It just didn't seem to work for me.
Author Bells Posted March 17, 2009 Author Posted March 17, 2009 For a lot of girls (myself included), we put all our eggs in one basket without even realizing it. I can't think of another guy when I'm interested in another. I've never dated more than one man at a time. I wish I did! It just didn't seem to work for me. Well, she said she was "talking" to this guy, which means she probably hasn't even gone OUT with him yet. That's what kind of threw me. What if this guy she's "talking" to has a date every week?
carhill Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 OP, if she's married, I'd say she definitely has the multi-dating down Seriously, get a few billion samples and formulate a hypothesis. Or, ask someone else out
Alma Mobley Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Women juggle, for sure. They just don't get SERIOUS with more than one person at a time, for the most part.
Zorie Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Women juggle, for sure. They just don't get SERIOUS with more than one person at a time, for the most part. I agree with this! I can begin talking/getting to know several people at one time but once something begins to develop with someone that's the one I put my focus on If a women won't date you because she tells you that she's already "talking to someone" then it sounds to me that it may be her polite way of saying she's not interested.
Shygirl15 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 I personally don't juggle. Once I pick my interest online -even before meeting him face to face- I stop talking to others. I just lose interest.
Alma Mobley Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Hmm, well, I was talking about real life, not online. Perhaps the rules there are different?
Star Gazer Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 I've multidated. The only time I'd turn down someone by telling them that I'm seeing someone else (no matter how new or serious the relationship is) is when I'm flatly not interested in them.
Trialbyfire Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 I have heard women don't like to "Juggle" male prospects. Is this true?Not true. In the past, I've juggled with full disclosure but without casual sex. Why not, if it's acceptable to everyone involved? Not every dating situation moves from dating to a relationship. A woman accepting a first date request, doesn't mean she's saying "I do". That's what dating is all about. Finding the right person for you.
Dexter Morgan Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 I don't date more than one woman at a time. I'd expect the same consideration in return. If I have been on more than one or two dates with someone, then there is something there, exclusivity or not. If nothing was there, it wouldn't go past 2 dates. If a woman is a multi-dater, then she isn't the one for me anyway. Those type tend to be way too fickle and get bored with a committed relationship to easy. no thanks.
Stockalone Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 I have heard women don't like to "Juggle" male prospects. Is this true? No, there certainly are female multi-daters. If a woman is a multi-dater, then she isn't the one for me anyway. Same here. It's the only time I felt like I was used as a meal ticket. But as long as they are upfront about dating other men, I can avoid them. Unfortunately, not all of them volunteer that information.
rlindzie Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 no not true at all! i date mulitple guys at once. mom told me to never put all my eggs in one basket
normal Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 <<<<<-----has dated more than one man at a time. Dated about four at one time, which was the most ever. I was also aware that one of them was seeing other people and not serious yet. I wasn't out having sex with any of them. Just going out and having a few drinks. Occasionally going back to their place for some physical action where our pants were kept on. I would recommend it to single people who haven't tried it.
Dexter Morgan Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Same here. It's the only time I felt like I was used as a meal ticket. But as long as they are upfront about dating other men, I can avoid them. Unfortunately, not all of them volunteer that information. I think if a woman told me up front she dated other men, I'd probably respect that. But then I'd say, "ok, no problem......we're doing dutch then right?"
Lizzie60 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 ....even though it isn't serious? I hear a lot of, "Well, I'm talking to someone right now, and I am wanting to see where that goes." line. In the past, I hear that women only date (even though it's not even REMOTELY serious) ONE guy at a time. Even if it's a prospect, OR Even if they haven't even met them in person yet. I have heard women don't like to "Juggle" male prospects. Is this true? I think most women will date one guy at a time.. I've heard that many times, from friends, that since they were talking to one guy, they wanted to see where it goes.. I was advising them to date more than one.. as I think it's a waste of time to date one at a time..
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 I agree with the poster who said, don't put all your eggs in one basket! Dating is trying to discover if you want to get to know this person better. To me, one or two dates isn't necessarily enough to know that. If I start sleeping with a man, or if is starts to go beyond 5 or 6 dates, then I will decide who I want to focus on.
clv0116 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 I have heard women don't like to "Juggle" male prospects. Is this true? Not even remotely. If anything women are more prone to date multiple prospects than men are. What they are really saying is they are not gonna date you, sorry bud.
carhill Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 I think it's a waste of time to date one at a time. As I get older, I must say I agree with this. Time is something we never get back
ruggy Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 So what is a good safe way to find out if the woman you are dating are also dating other men? One that will not lead to an argument or distaste for one another.
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