7117 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 So I slept with my best friends ex girlfriend who is also his babies mother o god am I so stupid.We always were in competition for girls even when they were dating he cheated on her alot but as his b/f i never said a word.They break up and she keeps calling me we were always good friends than I started feeling bad for her and she started just showing up at bars I was at while he was in training for his next fight.Next couple times out I tell her im leaving the bar to go to another friends house and she shows up alone and one thing led to another after many many many drinks.Few weeks pass and he is calling me going crazy he found out I spill my guts tell him everything he tells me he may never talk to me again or maybe in five years.Two weeks later pass and they decided they are getting back together and getting married.Long story short he is rich they are happy and its been two years I know he hates my guts but i need to say im sorry.Do I write him a letter and apologize? Or wait longer its been about two years and they just had there 2nd child.I know we will never be friends again and i know what a horrible friend i was.
Peter_pan Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 tell him you are sorry and are willing to expect the consequences of losing his friendship which you will always regret.
Meaplus3 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 I see nothing wrong with an apology at this point. This may be just what you need to put this whole thing behind you. Best wishes. Mea:)
DJMarky Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 So he can forgive her in two weeks, but not you in two years? Seems like he put all the blame on you, and none of her. Anyways, yes, two years is a long time. He should be able to get over it, I mean it's not like you did it while they were together. Just say you are sorry, and would like to catch up for a drink or whatever.
Lizzie60 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Best friends' gf/bf are no-no's.. even 'exes' of your best friends are no-no's... Try a few times with the apologies.. if he refuses to talk to you again.. well.. move on.. not much you can do.. live and learn..
Beautiful Inside Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 same thing happened with my man his life long best friend hooked up with his ex that he dated for about 6 years if not more. he still talked to his ex after cus he said he expected it from her but he completely disconnected form his male best friend never spoke to him since....how sad is that...i guess guys feel the same way as girls do in the sense of they couldn't forgive a close friend who chooses later to **** one of their ex's so not cool....not if your friend dated that person for so long...
Lizzie60 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 I guess the person would feel a much more painful betrayal from the friend.. much more than the 'ex'..
entityzero Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 you broke a cardinal man rule, bro's before ho's so to speak. my "mate" did that to my ex, except they're together now and im alone. accept what you did was wrong, accept you need to work on your morals, stop thinking with your d**k, move on and leave them alone. only once you start a relationship on good moral ground will you be redeemed.
Konfuzion Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 I have had two "best friends" do this too me, I have never spoke to either of them again. The apology wouldn't hurt, but I doubt it will get you far but its worth a shot.
Author 7117 Posted March 17, 2009 Author Posted March 17, 2009 Hey entityzero I have been in other relationships and I don't think with my di**.I just want to apologize because it's the right thing to do.Just because your miserable because your alone don't act like im you by telling me i have no morals you dont know anything about the person I am.I made a mistake and 7 out of the 8 responses on here told me to get in touch with him and apologize so im gonna listen to them a**hole.I have no morals why because i screwed up once what about her it was 50% 50% takes 2.
entityzero Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Hey maybe I was a bit harsh, I was having a bad day yesterday I didnt mean to take it out on you. Its just I guess I wish the dude who screwed me over had the balls to apologize like you, and own up to his actions. I think you should go ahead and do whats best for you, you're right I dont know you but I wish you the best of luck.
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