monkeymaid Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 so,my ex and i spoke for the last time(this time) about 2 1/2 weeks ago. everything was great and on track to getting back together andthen she asked what i wanted. ...i told her the basics of how i sawthings going. ...hanging out, gaining her trust back (i broke it off) letting her see that i do actually want her, and she started crying. she said she wants that too but its not the right thing. she said we cant be together now, and that we have to not talk, hang out, email etc... because we will definately end up back together and she just doesnt trust me to not break up with her again. so i said ok. now this isnt the problem. the problem is that her and i were friends for 5 years before we hooked up, and our friendship started with us hooking up, but we couldnt keep going cuz we both had way different lives in places far from each other. when we hung out intermitantly throughout those 5 years, it was always charged, and sparks flew, but we never acted on anything cuz i had a girlfriend or she had a boyfriend etc. i work for her parents and it is inevitable thaet we see eachother again, so am i hurting myself hoping that we could hook up again and she will be healed enough to trust me once more? i think this is the only thing thats hanging me up now from wanting to date other girls. ...i really should have thought this break up over before i did it!!
Author monkeymaid Posted March 17, 2009 Author Posted March 17, 2009 please!!!?!?! does anyone have any thoughts?? i want her back soo bad, but i dont want her to loose respect for me if i go out of my way and try after she toldme not to. ...am i crazy for wanting her still?? do i just hold out? do i call her even though she said not to call her? please help1!
WTRanger Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 If she told you not to call or contact her you must respect her wishes. Failure to do so will only drive her farther away. Sadly, you must ride this one out on the bench. She is in charge now and only she can put you back into the game. It'll hurt for a while, but you'll survive. She, as you do to, just need time to recover and get her thoughts together. Give her the space she needs.
Konfuzion Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Yes you contacting her when she has asked you not too will just give her more reasons to not trust you.
Author monkeymaid Posted March 17, 2009 Author Posted March 17, 2009 thank you for those replys. is it wrong of me to hold out for her? or should i start dating again casually just for my own well being/ not turning into a weirdo? she will find out sooner or later, and i know shes dating so should i kill my hope of reconciliation? do i hold out for another month? i dont think about her every day anymore, just sometimes when i first wake up in the morning and its intense!its all lovey dovey. actually i get scared when it pops into my head that ill never find that again. i was soooooooo stupid in breaking up with her. she is the girl of my dreams. ..literally and figuratively and i let her go cuzof some damn insecurities f@ck my life
Konfuzion Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 thank you for those replys. is it wrong of me to hold out for her? or should i start dating again casually just for my own well being/ not turning into a weirdo? she will find out sooner or later, and i know shes dating so should i kill my hope of reconciliation? do i hold out for another month? i dont think about her every day anymore, just sometimes when i first wake up in the morning and its intense!its all lovey dovey. actually i get scared when it pops into my head that ill never find that again. i was soooooooo stupid in breaking up with her. she is the girl of my dreams. ..literally and figuratively and i let her go cuzof some damn insecurities f@ck my life Live your life.... If that involves you dating then do it, focus on yourself and be the best person you can be right now. Thats what will get her attention.
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