edMalibu Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 So I met this girl about 6 months ago and we clicked really well. About 3-months ago we went on a spur of the moment vacation. We both agreed on the price up front and agreed to each pay our share, so I went ahead and booked everything with my credit card. We went on the vacation which was awesome. The best time of my life. When we got back she moved in with me. We agreed to split the rent on my place instead of living apart. We love spending time together. Then I found out she had no money to pay for the trip. After she moved in I found out she defaulted on her car payments, has no credit card, can't get car insurance, and owes her bank money for over drafting. She's got no savings whatsoever (we're both in our mid-thirties). I put her on my insurance so she could use my car to drive to work and I told her to pay me back for the trip in installments. I was trying to be patient. It's been 3-months since the vacation and I have yet to see a dime. She got a new job last month but still nothing to show for it, because she's go to pay off her bank, her car and other debts. Meanwhile I'm paying all the rent, floating her half of the vacation, buying all the groceries, putting gas in the car etc. She hasn't contributed financially at all. I have paid her way for 3-months now. Luckily I have a good job! I'm losing my patience and we've been arguing a lot lately. I love this girl like crazy but can't help feeling like she's taking advantage of me. She says she wants to contribute but I think I've made it too easy for her not to? Maybe I rushed into things ... I'm not sure what to do next ... I'm having a hard time approaching her about this.
Beautiful Inside Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 wow well i've been in this situation on the ****ty side where i have no money i had a really good job ever since i graduated high school i as the one out of all my friends that had a career right out of high school and was making the most money. I got into ESCROW and Title and i worked my way from being customer service rep to escrow assistant to escrow officer....i met the man of my dreams when i was doing really well about a month into seeing him i was laid off back at the end of 2007 i was so upset and embarrassed i had all these feelings i couldn't tell anyone i was so ashamed. what me SASHA not having a job i always felt on top of the world i was the successful business career women but was still the fun social butterfly i was always making all the parties and bars and just hangouts been with waking up at 6 in the morning sometimes 5 if i went to the gym. my friends would come hang out at my office i had this huge all mirrored office and i loved it i felt so proud of everything i have earned work wise... then it was all taken away i never even saw it coming but it was getting pretty slow....my point is i dunno her story like what she use to do but im sure she feels really bad i know if she could she'd probably be helping out more. i think you should forget about the whole trip money considerate it a wash seriously just cause she owes all these other people first before ever getting to you. maybe you can have her like get the groceries or something in the mean time just little things until she gets back on her feet. pleas ebe patient and understanding of her situation. dont think shes taking advantage of you obviously she really likes you, this must be making her feel so ****ty....
Still Trying Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 give her a deadline and stick to it. She's using you.
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