Template Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 With all the question regarding how a dumpee feels, I'm curious - How does a dumpee feel if they were dumped the same way they dumped someone. For example (and this is just an example), say a person dumped someone because they started to like someone else (or cheated), knowing full well that the person they dumped loved them very much, and hurt them. From what I read in one of the posts, by this time the dumper, has already moved on with the relationship, so they hold no regret. So let's say this dumper is now in a relationship THEY think is the ONE, and then THEY get dumped because their significant other found someone else, or cheated - Do you think this person looks back at how the person they hurt must have felt, and regret doing what they did, or is humanity basically a selfish lot, and no one really learns. I'm sure not every one of us can relate, and I don't expect us to, but for those that can, did you learn from that experience, or you just basically say, "that's life, Karma be damned!" What do y'all think-Do these people live and learn, or is it "all about me!" *Personally when I'm in a relationship, I always do what's best for the RELATIONSHIP, so if it means breaking up, then so be it. But I don't half ass a relationship and drag it along with no hopes of making it work, just as a filler until I find another relationship. I think that's just rude and cruel.*
BCCA Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 I think they consider the person who treated them poorly a total douche, but continue to rationalize them doing the same thing as 'that was different'. At least thats what Ive seen from people in the situation you described. An ex of mine told me that her mom went through a lot, the love of her life left her when she was 26. I was 26 at the time, and she was dumping me. To me, it was pretty much the same thing - she was the love of my life. But of course, 'it was different' because in her scenario, her dad was the douche, and she was certain not to cast the same shadow on herself. Human nature is to assume that whatever other people do, even if its the exact same thing to some one else, is much worse than what they do. You hear people rationalize all kinds of messed up stuff, but when someone else does it to them, the just cant believe it.
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