hollisterbaby Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 ive posted a similar thread about this.i have come to the conclusion that my bf doesnt want to hang out with me.other than this problem,we have a pretty good relationship.yesterday i asked him to hang out with me fri because i wont see him all week because he is spending the nite at a friends house(who he cant leave his side) in the city where he works(he has to work early in the morning)...anyways i asked him to do something saturday and he said he didnt know.so this morning he calls me telling him about him and his friends previous night out. he was all happy and he said that he was gona go out again fri. i asked him fri to hang out first and he'll be at his friends house all this week. to top that off one of our guy friends is a soccer coach and invited us to his game saturday.my bf said that was cool and we'll b there. then i asked if he can commit to our friends' game sat, the y cant he commit to hangin out with me fri.he then said that he can stay at the friends'h ouse that he is at now and not go to the game.y wont he commit to hangin out with me. when i asked him this he was like "we hung out 2 days last weekend."im tryin to compromise with him,but i dont know what to do anymore. y wont he hang with me like he does with his friend(who's house he wont leave)
Kamille Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 How old is he? From the quick clip, it sounds like the two of you aren't on the same page when it comes to what you want out of the relationship. You want something more serious then he does. I've been there. My first serious boyfriend could never find time for me. His big thing was that he needed his space and his independance. I came to the realization that it was ok for him to want that, but also ok for me to want more. We broke up - it was hard at first, especially since he came begging. Long-story short, don't settle for less then you want. And yes, that might mean you will have to move on.
Author hollisterbaby Posted March 16, 2009 Author Posted March 16, 2009 he's 20 and weve been together for 3 years. he wanted to marry me and such but 4 the past few weeks he has been doin this.he also seems 2 pick and choose when he wants to be nice to me when he is around his friend.his friend is actually a nice guy and asked when we were going to hang out. my bf also told his friend that i said that i didnt like him,which i never said.please im thinkin about actually ending it so i need comments and advice.both male and female.
Lucky_One Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 Sorry, I already replied on your other threads, and your posting style drives me crazy. This is a forum for adults, not a really large cell phone screen to text on.
Star Gazer Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 i have come to the conclusion that my bf doesnt want to hang out with me.other than this problem,we have a pretty good relationship. Isn't one of the foundations of a relationship spending time together? If he doesn't want to do that, what sort of relationship do you have?
JackJack Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 If I remember correctly he is the same b/f of yours in another thread who is pretty adamant about going to the strip club with his friends regardless of how you feel.... He is NOT ready to be in a relationship...I hope you understand that its not worth putting all your time and energy into a person who isn't willing to do the same.
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