kashmir Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 I know what you mean about wanting to slap some sense into guys that sound ridiculous. It's obvious when guys try to hard. But it's also obvious when that friend of yours talks to girls and is super good at it. The main thing is to just have fun, be confident, and challenge her. It's impossible to give a formula or specifics on this sort of thing as it depends on the girl and situation. I've had girls tell me I'm very perceptive (the last gf said "it's almost scary how well you can read me"), mainly because of the questions I ask, and observations I make about her (sometimes humorous). Just find what you're good at and roll with it. You can have a "mature talk" with a girl and be flirting at the same time. Basically I mean you can say something very deep and profound to a girl without actually SAYING the words. This is a type of flirting. This is all very vague. I can say that I do all of these things, but obviously there's something not going right.
Phateless Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 This is all very vague. I can say that I do all of these things, but obviously there's something not going right. There are phases, and you have to hit all of them. You're staying in one phase instead of moving to the next. Attraction Qualification - why do you like HER instead of another girl? Comfort You don't have to go in that order, but if you don't hit all three, you're not gonna get the girl.
IcemanJB Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 ^^^I agree. There should be steady advancement with the girl; conversationally and eventually physically. Simply flirting isn't going to do anything in the long run. Flirting is a first step, although I like to keep doing it a bit even as things progress in other areas. You need to push the envelope a bit if she seems comfortable. Like setting up dates, discussing deeper subjects, even a simple kiss. Theyre generally looking for the man to take the lead-believe me, I've shot myself in the foot before by holding back.
ricks123 Posted March 26, 2009 Posted March 26, 2009 I say both win. Both skills are needed if you really want to be successful with women. When I was younger, I was the super "nice guy". I'd usually get the girl because I was a decent enough looking guy but I'd either get cheated on or she wouldn't be "in love" with me anymore, blah blah. The pattern continued until I really started to study how women think with the help of a buddy of mine that was a natural at this stuff. Once I figured out what woman are looking for, things changed. Bottom line is you still have to be Mr Nice Guy, but with an edge. You have to know when to turn it on, go over the top, spank their ass and whisper in their ear: "You know what I'm going to do to you when I get you home...." HAHA Works every time...
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