colosseum Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 I go to a small liberal arts college; I see people around often. One beautiful day, I am walking to a meeting, looking and feeling good. I see about 20 feet ahead of me a girl off a GQ cover walking headed my direction. 1. We meet eyes 2. She maintains eye contact. 3. She flashes me a smile of divinity. And what do I, the lowly mortal, do? That's right: nothing. AAAAAAAAAAA Since then I've seen her around quite often. I could tell that she is willing to be approached by me still; she leaves herself room to be alone, or allows for some "incidental" small talk to be had. She knows who I am, and she knows that I know that. But I have yet to say anything to her, probably because I am nervous as crap for not wanting to screw it up. I know I know, the worst I can get is a "no" so why not try, and I will, but... I want to maximize my chances!!! Gentlemen: what should I do? When/where/how should I approach this girl? I want to be genuine but not come off too gimicky, especially since I bet she's surrounded by a bunch of guys wanting to win her over. Ladies: What would you want to have done in a situation like this? You want to be approached by this guy, but he's not picking up on it or he just hasn't had the courage to yet. It's not too late is it? What can be done? Thanks folks!
BatteredByLove Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 wow colloseum, stop freaking out, geez. One thing I do know is that girl digs confidence, Next time you see her, approach her. Walk up with a smile, and just be honest and friendly, tell her what you think. You can be like, "hey, you know, I've been meaning to talk to you for a while now but never really had the time, but I'm going to grab some coffee, do you want to join me?" something like that =)
Author colosseum Posted March 16, 2009 Author Posted March 16, 2009 Haha thanks. I guess I think she's somewhat pretty.
prettybaby Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 Could you make it sound any more dramatic? Next time you bump into her, just say "hi" or "hey" or whatever flows best for you. Wow, you could even add "how are you?" lol Really, just say something simple and casual to break the ice. Don't over think this. Even if the first contact ends up being very brief, it will leave the door open for more talk the next time you see her around.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 You could always try a mankini? thats hot and a def ice breaker!
runner Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 I go to a small liberal arts college; I see people around often. One beautiful day, I am walking to a meeting, looking and feeling good. I see about 20 feet ahead of me a girl off a GQ cover walking headed my direction. 1. We meet eyes 2. She maintains eye contact. 3. She flashes me a smile of divinity. And what do I, the lowly mortal, do? That's right: nothing. sounds like you've put her on a pedestal; i suggest you get over this asap. girls usually don't go out with guys who feel beneath them, unless they just want a free meal/drink just say something. 'hi', 'hello' - start there. make an opinion on something, or ask for her opinion. you both go to the same school so you've got that going for you. go sit next to her the next time you see her hanging out.
samspade Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 There is a time for critical thought, and a time for action. When you see a pretty girl you want to approach, the more you "think things through," the lower your chances of approaching her. AND the more rehearsed and silly your opening line will be. Double whammy. "Hi." "Hello." "Nice day if it don't rain." "Did you know Hawaii is the only state with a royal palace?" Things like that. Quit freaking out.
Author colosseum Posted March 16, 2009 Author Posted March 16, 2009 sounds like you've put her on a pedestal; i suggest you get over this asap. girls usually don't go out with guys who feel beneath them, unless they just want a free meal/drink There is a time for critical thought, and a time for action. When you see a pretty girl you want to approach, the more you "think things through," the lower your chances of approaching her. Quit freaking out. Yeah, I admit to having dramatized the scene a bit; I have put her on a pedestal which I know is not good; and you're right, I've thought about this way too damn much. Well, only one way to find out what happens, right?
Isolde Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 Are you serious? You should already have asked her for coffee. She probably has several other guys in mind, so don't friendzone!
Author colosseum Posted March 20, 2009 Author Posted March 20, 2009 Dammit. Really Isolde? I'm not totally screwed yet, am I?
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