crazynluv_04 Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 ok im really confused about this guy i just met. he just got out of a 4 year relationship and i just got out of a 3 year one and we talked and hung out a bit then got really drunk one night and slept together... that night he said to me he doesnt want to date or anything like that, it didnt really matter to me considering the state i was in. but now he is always texting me and not just like "come over lets have sex" but asks me stuff about me like how are exams going... bla blah blah. so i am confused to as whether he is just doing this for a piece or does he like me and want to date or are we just friends with benefits? plz help!
7117 Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 Ok im a pro at the friends with benefit thing.As a guy who has had many bang buddies would say he probably respects you and feels funny coming out and saying wanna f.He probably knows your volnerable coming out of long term relationship and doesnt want to be mean.The thing to look out for in the friends with benefit situation somebody always gets jealous and the feelings come out and one of you will catch feelings o it will happen trust me and somebody ends up hurt.Its really a tough thing to do I would stear clear I did it 3 times never ended good.But he would not ask you how things are if he didnt care or like you.
Author crazynluv_04 Posted March 16, 2009 Author Posted March 16, 2009 but i dont understand this whole ordeal... like should i just hang out with him and dont let anything get sexual, or tell him how i feel i dont want to scare the guy off. if he likes me then why would he say he doesnt want to date?
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 I had a FWB that did what yours is doing. He would text me every morning to wish me a good day and he would usually call me after work to see how my day went. It was VERY confusing. Towards the end of it, I asked him if he seriously only wanted sex or something more. I was getting really confused in my feelings. But yeah - he had been true to his word. He said all he wanted was sex. I'd say that for some guys, it's their way of making themselves feel better about what they're doing. They're trying to alleviate their guilt. But if he told you all he wanted was sex, BELIEVE what he's saying. Guys do not operate like women at all. They mean it when they say it.
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