citizen67 Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 Ok so I had a first date with this man last night. I met him in a bar about 3 weeks ago & gave him my number. He doesn't live that close, but he made the effort to take a pretty long drive to come and take me to dinner. It went well. I could tell he was attracted to me and I felt very comfortable. Conversation flowed, and I wasn't nervous at all. At one point I realized that I wasn't really physically attracted to him, which accounted for the complete lack of nerves. After dinner we went back to my place and made out (hey it really was a long drive) and it was pleasant. He called me today to say what a great time he had. How much should I care about the lack of physical attraction on my part? I wasn't repulsed otherwise I wouldn't have made out with him, but I wasnt really turned on either.
yeex Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 First date seemed to go well and you were not repulsed and you made out with him which says something. I would give him a couple more chances. Why not? He may grow on you. I would not lead him on though after a month or so if you are not feeling any different. And if you are not really feeling it, maybe not make out every date so he does not get his hopes up too much.
Princess_in_love Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 when i started dating my boyfriend, i didn't really think he was.. "hot." he was cute. but also bald, and had a couple other things about him that i normally wouldn't consider attractive. he was clearly smart, and we had great conversations, though, so i thought i would keep dating him since we were keeping it light and fun. i'm falling in love with this man. i think more women need to try to date people who they normally wouldn't consider "hot" because there are some really sweet bald men out there who don't lie or cheat and who can have great conversations with us and truly value us and our opinions. by dating someone who isn't extremely hot, you can be yourself!!!! btw, i think he gets better looking the longer i know him. now i can't seem to find guys who i think are cuter/hotter!!!! good luck!
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 I wasn't "on-fire" attracted to my BF at the beginning, either. But as we spent more time together, the attraction grew. So I did fine him "cute" as another poster said. But he's not somebody I would have seen on the street and thought "rrrreeeoowwrr." LOL I have become more attracted to him and definitely see his sexy side more. I say give the guy another chance. Insane attraction at the beginning is not all it's cracked up to be. I'm very happy with my BF and we have a great sex life.
Author citizen67 Posted March 17, 2009 Author Posted March 17, 2009 okay thanks - thats in line with the advice of everyone who knew about my date and got the update
BobSacamento Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 I am believe that in the long run lust can be very dangerous and fruitless.
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