bubbles5 Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 For all u ppl who have broken their hearts for first time or million time , their isnt any medicine or pills or any magic that will help you to come out of break ups. If u want to get over it then :- you have to have to and have to be strong by mind and heart.. you will be torchering yourself more if u keep thinking n wondering why is it with me , that "why" answer is never going to satisfy you with your broken-heart. i know it takes ages to build relation n effort n in a flick of nano seconds it turns down into ashes,, you cant help , you have to try n try n try face situations. killing yourself and commiting suicide is total foolishness more than thinking that how did u foolishly fell in love with your ex,,you had these wonderful chance to be n spend your time with someone whom you loved deeply, so it was your choice n thats why its wrong to think that you are loser or being used..or you were foolish..bcos there are ppl who get used n dumped but they try to be over .. not eating ,not sleeping n not doing work isnt going to bring your ex back or even calling him/her thousand or million times or even making him/her jealous by having another guy/girl around you...(note:-relation where nothing is left,after many times making n breaking ) you can fight/ argue /even do all court cases n throw all your frustration n anger ec to your ex.. But thats not going to make him/her come back no matter how many years you spend with that person,,, i did loved my friend deeply he was like the dream boy , he had a girlfriend n he commited suicide becos of heart -break , i didnt even had that courage or chance to tell him how deeply i loved i did felt to kill myself n went through all torcher that i can do to myself but then i came to know its not worth the person is gone , so i just cherish moments n be happy even after knowing he had gf , though each moment n time kills me like hell but still i am here becos i have one life n i want to enjoy i dont have hopes dreams any aspirations but still i am living n want to live,,even if its being in hell.. you have to move on , i didnt mean to forget everything but move on..no one can help u its you only who can make your own heart understand ,, ppl can just give suggestion n support,, to inspire you..you learn certain things just by experiencin you cant vanish pain completely ..you have to live with it time heals major pain to minor but not completely.. dont try to judge your relation by time judge by how much u had put your heart to it ,,, n you have to take care of urself no one is going to come n heal all your sorrows with some magic or words..
Author bubbles5 Posted March 15, 2009 Author Posted March 15, 2009 guys /gals be free to add u suggestions n thoughts also
hopesndreams Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 This is just a few things I've learned.....and yes, it took awhile, it takes time to come round to this way of thinking. How much time, depends on you, no one else. Course lots of support from this forum was a godsend. Take some of the responsibility for the breakdown of the relationship, learn from it and do not repeat the same mistakes when you find someone new to love. I do not take responsibility for my H's affair. He had a choice in what he did, I will not blame myself for it. I will not think about the MOW that put the final nail in the coffin of my marriage. My soon to be ex H is her problem now. Good luck to both of em cause what goes around comes around. I will live the rest of my life with the same values and morals, my heart is not hardened, it's a darn cruel world out there but I will survive this. Acceptance, forgiveness, respecting and loving yourself. Do not let anyone, no matter how much you love em, treat you shabbily. Being cheated on by your spouse/partner is a despicable crime, no one deserves it, no one asks for it, no one should hate themselves for it. Let them go. Live your life without the shame and guilt that the love of your life made you feel about yourself. Just let them go. I know that marriages can survive an affair with a lot of exhausting work and yeah, it could be worth it in the end, but if it's one-sided and you are being stringed along, grasping onto threads or waiting for crumbs, you are fighting a losing battle and damaging your health along the way.
EmperorR Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 Nice thread. DOn't keep stuff bottled up inside, trust me I repeated my situation probably like 1,000 times on here and it helps, keeping stuff inside just makes it worse. Nothing and I mean nothing will make your ex comes back, so why look beggy and pathetic? That's one thing I wish I never did beg a scumbag cheater to give me another chance:laugh: Keep telling yourself you don't deserve this, you want someone who wants you and doesn't second doubt themselves. Yeah it sucks that my ex cheated on me, but hey you odn't want to be with me then fine, I know i'm a good guy and I've found someone who does want to be with me. Forgiveness is key if you really want to let go, I had anger in my heart for months and months and month,s untill finally i'm like screw this and it felt like a burden was off my chest, will i call and tell my ex I forgave her HECK No, but have I forgiven her yes.
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