escape88 Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 Me and my last girl friend dated for 5.5 months. we started out pretty weird cuz for the 2 months before we dated and were just flirty sexual friends she was still getting over her ex bf which had broken up with her 4 months ago... but she had only stopped having sex with him 2 weeks before her and I met. I can honestly say that before things started getting more serious my time spent with her was really awesome! never fought or anything. once things got serious the fights started.. prolly one big fight every two weeks on average. I would blame a lot of it being on the fact that her first semester of college was this past fall (shes 18.) Ive come to learn that she prolly has a lot of growing up to do. She actually had grown up a lot just from being with me for these past 5+ months (I am 21.) as the relationship went on I started to feel more and more like she wasn't the one. I loved her.. but it wasn't a deep love of any kind. it was prolly one step up from the kind of love you would have for a friend. during our relationship I tried to break up with her 3 times for various reasons, but she was very persistent that we could work things out and that things would get better and that we would stop fighting soo much. later she would say that things were getting better, but I didn't ever quite feel that way except for 1 or 2 groupings of weeks where things were really good. in the end, this past Wednesday I started breaking up with her because I felt that she was a lot more into me than I was into her and I didn't feel that was fair. Also I didn't really see us going anywhere so I thought me breaking up was inevitable and sooner than later would be less pain for her. some other reasons are that my mind was starting to wander and want other girls.. not for a relationship, but just because I am a flirty guy and I wanted to end things with her before I made a mistake(ive cheated in the past, didn't want it to happen again.) My last reason would be that I just felt like having the single free life back and that I think I still have some growing up to do before I am ready to be truly committed to a long term relationship. Well now here it is sunday and I am missing her for reasons that prolly aren't right. I know she went out to a club last night and had a blind date.. and seeing her status messages on facebook... I couldn't help but get jealous. we haven't been talking at all except for certain important things such as her bc... but I told her I wouldn't talk to her cuz I wanted it to be easier for her to get over me. I think whats hard about enjoying this single life I have choosen is that I don't have many friends. Ive never been really good at making friends. when I was dating this girl we would spend almost all of our time together (this was something that at times annoyed me too) and now I break up with her so I can have a single life and she is the one having all the fun. Of course I do think she was trying to make me jealous by posting those status messages to facebook. I know its not right to miss her for the reasons I do... but I do miss her.. for her comfort, her love, the joy she brought to my life (most of the time) the truth is I really need to move on.... but I am very tempted to text her right now and say im sorry and that I miss her and that I want to hold her ect.. blah blah. any advice guys? I tried to keep it as short as possible, sorry for it being soo long though!
love_fool Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 My ex and I broke up for reasons similar to yours. We spent a lot of our time together, and I nearly lost all my friends because of him. I held on, and I'm grateful to have the few good ones that are by my side. He needed and wanted to feel single again, and he can't treat me the way he should because he doesn't even know/love himself. I was his first love, his first girlfriend... pretty much his first everything. It's for the best, don't let your emotions control you, hold yourself back from contacting her. Always be optimistic, and just remember that grieving takes a long time, and there are going to be times when you're going to want her back. You two aren't ready to be together now, but only time can tell what happens in the future. Don't force it.
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