whatdoyouthink Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 Alright, its like this. Just over a year ago I went through a divorce and shortly after we started proceedings I met up with a girl that I had always had a magnetic relationship (flirty friends). We started spending time with one another and I rushed into a relationship. She told me she felt it was to soon. But, we were in love and it was blatently obvious to us and everyone around us. I pushed for it and we spent a few months together. At some point I freaked out because it felt like things were getting way serious and it scared the crap out of me. I told her I needed some space to figure things out for myself. But, the words just didn't come out right and it ended up a mess. She was very hurt by all that and we didn't really talk for a few months. When we did start talking again she explained how much it had hurt and she didn't think she could risk a relationship with me again. I backed away feeling as though I had brought it on myself and I wanted her to be happy. She started dating someone soon after. We kept in distant contact talking like once a month. The subject would always turn to her being hurt by the break up. What she didn't know was everyday when I wake up she's the first thought and everyday before I go to sleep she's the last. Its been driving me crazy for 8 months but, I haven't wanted to say anything about it afraid she will just tell me that she can't stick herself out there to be hurt by me again. So I wrote her a letter a few weeks ago letting her know how sorry I was and that I still think of her. I left it at that, thinking it was finished and at least she knew I felt horrible and didn't mean to be such a jerk I just didn't have my life together. She called me drunk about a week later and told me she missed me and wanted to know how I was. Told me she wasn't really into the guy she was dating and of course that I had hurt her really bad. Since then we text and talk on the phone a bit but, haven't seen eachother. I know she still has feelings for me but, I don't know how to get her out of my head or into my life. Over the last year I've got over the big D, changed alot about my life and have myself together. But, every girl I date I compare to her or think about her when I'm with them. She's someone I can see myself with for the rest of my life and know that she's having thoughts of me all the time too (from a mutual friend). How do I A) get her back OR B) get over her?
Beautiful Inside Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 i feel like you should just live each day as it comes....and just see what evolves from each day....we really dont have the answers for you we dont know what shes thinking or feeling or where shes really stands with this new guy you know?... ummm if you want to still keep in contact with her like how its been just texting once in a while thats cool i dont know how satisfying that could really be but i would say theres so many girls out there im sure if you just put yourself back out there you'd b surprised how fast you could possibly fall for someone else as well. and now you will be completely ready to give 100 percent
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