I'm Joe Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 I hope most guys with sisters can relate to me when I say I wanted to thrash everyone of my little sisters boyfriends. Just a protective reaction I guess I had a crush on a friends sister a long time ago... I found it just as hard to tell him as I did telling her... It didnt work out though If you did date your friends sister, how did you go about telling your buddy? What was his reaction? Did it change your friendship with him?
IcemanJB Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 Yes! I have dated my friend's sister. He and I still hang out to this day, so I don't think he thinks less of me because of it. I remember him saying to me: "better you than those other douches she hangs out with." haha.
BobSacamento Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 I think the way I would bring it up is to say - "Damn dude your sister is looking good, what's her story?" and then he might "WTF Do you mean by that!?!?" Then you'll have your answer whether he's cool with it. And if he's not, it's time to go behind his back
mr.dream merchant Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 Hell yeah. My homeboy has two sisters that I would love to take for a ride.
Phateless Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 I had a 4.5 year relationship with a female friend's little sister. Originally I asked her how she would feel if I took her sister out on a date. No big deal. On the flipside, I've had other friends' little sisters come on to me before, and I've always stopped it dead in its tracks because I have no idea how my guy friends would react. Don't get me wrong these girls were cute and I would love to hook up with them, but I'm not going there with a friend's sister unless I want a LTR. Unless you're planning for it to be a LTR, don't do it.
JerseyShortie Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 I never understood men on this issue. If you want to date a girl (a friend's sister), good chances you aren't doing so to disrespect her. So why would it be an issue? If you only want to sleep with her, I can understand it more. But men have double standards where its okay to treat other women like they aren't important except when it comes to women in his family then she better get respect only by default of it being *his* family member. It seems to have nothing to do with respecting women and more to do with him feeling like it's a disrespect against *him*. Maybe all that posturing about protecting his family is really just about him and being selfish.
mr.dream merchant Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 I never understood men on this issue. If you want to date a girl (a friend's sister), good chances you aren't doing so to disrespect her. So why would it be an issue? If you only want to sleep with her, I can understand it more. But men have double standards where its okay to treat other women like they aren't important except when it comes to women in his family then she better get respect only by default of it being *his* family member. It seems to have nothing to do with respecting women and more to do with him feeling like it's a disrespect against *him*. Maybe all that posturing about protecting his family is really just about him and being selfish. Lol it is disrespect to him....
Phateless Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 I never understood men on this issue. If you want to date a girl (a friend's sister), good chances you aren't doing so to disrespect her. So why would it be an issue? If you only want to sleep with her, I can understand it more. But men have double standards where its okay to treat other women like they aren't important except when it comes to women in his family then she better get respect only by default of it being *his* family member. It seems to have nothing to do with respecting women and more to do with him feeling like it's a disrespect against *him*. Maybe all that posturing about protecting his family is really just about him and being selfish. Maybe for some guys it is about the macho chauvinistic feeling that it's a disrespect against him, but it's mostly because guys are protective over their little sisters and they don't want them to get hurt by their player friends. Personally, if I want it to be a casual hookup, I will tell the girl outright beforehand because I don't want to hurt her. The reason I would never hook up with a friend's sister unless I wanted a relationship is because I wouldn't want her to get hurt or attached, or whatever. I've had the little sister of one of my buddies coming onto me before and i didn't let it progress because i didn't know how he would feel about it, i didn't know if she wanted a casual hookup or a relationship, and mostly, i wanted to be able to go to my buddy's house and see her without worrying about whether it would be weird or whether i hurt her. you don't cause drama for yourself if you're smart. unless you're in love with this girl and want to marry, stay away. there's an episode of friends where Ross finds out his friend Chandler is dating his sister Monica. Freaking hilarious, and very applicable.
JerseyShortie Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 I guess the point I am trying to make that the guy's concern seems to have little to do with an honest concern for his sister and more of a concern for himself being that the female in question is related. Otherwise, men would care more about treating all women right. And I am not saying that men don't love their sisters or whatever. But how come it's okay to treat other women with disrespect and use them but it's not oaky to treat a sister like that? The main factor is in one situation, he isn't a factor. And in the other with is sister, he is. So maybe it doesn't have to do with him really caring that his sister is disrespected but that he is being disrespected. Which is depressing if you really look at it.
mr.dream merchant Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 I guess the point I am trying to make that the guy's concern seems to have little to do with an honest concern for his sister and more of a concern for himself being that the female in question is related. Otherwise, men would care more about treating all women right. And I am not saying that men don't love their sisters or whatever. But how come it's okay to treat other women with disrespect and use them but it's not oaky to treat a sister like that? The main factor is in one situation, he isn't a factor. And in the other with is sister, he is. So maybe it doesn't have to do with him really caring that his sister is disrespected but that he is being disrespected. Which is depressing if you really look at it. Because that said guy doesn't care for females who aren't related to him. He cares for his sister because its his sister, they're blood related, came from the same womb. Its the same way for a skanky female. She'll treat guys like ass but treat her brother very well. What's the correlation here? What are you trying to prove?
Phateless Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 I guess the point I am trying to make that the guy's concern seems to have little to do with an honest concern for his sister and more of a concern for himself being that the female in question is related. Otherwise, men would care more about treating all women right. And I am not saying that men don't love their sisters or whatever. But how come it's okay to treat other women with disrespect and use them but it's not oaky to treat a sister like that? The main factor is in one situation, he isn't a factor. And in the other with is sister, he is. So maybe it doesn't have to do with him really caring that his sister is disrespected but that he is being disrespected. Which is depressing if you really look at it. I see what you're saying. Personally, most of my friends and I tell ALL girls outright if we don't want a LTR, and let them make their own decisions. I try to treat every person like I don't want to hurt them. With little sisters, even if she was down for a casual hookup now and then just for fun (which I think this one i was talking about might be) without getting hurt, it would still make it weird seeing her and him together. He might feel weird about that, so I just made an executive decision not to go there.
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