WhyOno Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 Hello I'm brand new here! I'm only 28 & my wife 27,but we have been married for two years now & all of a sudden I am thinking about her past.Our marriage is great, everything's fine,but my mind is racing. I have been with quite a few people,but she has definetly been with more.Never discussed exact numbers.She has had threesome..Me never,She has had sex in a club bathroom..Me never, etc.. She is a great wife,Trust her fully & she is faithful,but I feel all of a sudden I don't know?? Any one out there for help? Should I get over it or start some crazy sex life with us? Thanks for any opinions.
Heroic Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 Not sure where your going with that question.... Are you aaasking if you should spice up your sex life to keep her interested?
Beautiful Inside Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 mand ont get it either since everything has been going good and all sometimes you gotta let the past go....forget about it try focusing on the good positive things in your relationship and how she has changed her life to be with you
mark982 Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 man, what's in her past, is just that--her past. my wife came w/ way more experience than me also.I've never gave it a second thought.If she's been 100% faithful, you're fretting about nothing.
sxyNYCcpl Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 I don't know if you should start a "crazy sex life" with your wife, that would be up to you guys to discuss and decide if it's right for you. With such a vague description, I don't even have a clue what exactly you might have in mind. Either way, you definitely need to get over it.
voldigicam Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 Generally the "Tell me everything" conversations end badly. Bits and pieces over the years as they slide to the surface are OK.
signedin2008 Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 Hum....you have chosen a wild *woman* as a wife. Hopefully, she is indeed wife material.
Ramrod Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 Hello I'm brand new here! I'm only 28 & my wife 27,but we have been married for two years now & all of a sudden I am thinking about her past.Our marriage is great, everything's fine,but my mind is racing. I have been with quite a few people,but she has definetly been with more.Never discussed exact numbers.She has had threesome..Me never,She has had sex in a club bathroom..Me never, etc.. She is a great wife,Trust her fully & she is faithful,but I feel all of a sudden I don't know?? Any one out there for help? Should I get over it or start some crazy sex life with us? Thanks for any opinions. Your a dummy, but I mean that in the kindest and most gentlest of ways. She PICKED YOU!!! Knowledge of a woman's sexual past is Kryptonite brother, it's super toxic stuff, and it take you from being Superman in her eyes to being just another ordinary sissy-boy who is chock full of paranoid insecurities. Read the horror stories of relationships which ended, because home-boy (that's you) couldn't let go of his woman's past. If you don't sack up, shut-up and man-up Sally, she'll find herself a real man and tell him about what a Goober you were, because you had her love and attention, and at one time, had tamed her sexually, but you just couldn't keep your trap shut about her past and allowed it to eat away at you. For your sake, coming from a guy who has been down this road before, let it go, nowadays, I have a don't ask, don't tell policy. I got tired of going down that road, it leads to heartache bro'.
Author WhyOno Posted March 17, 2009 Author Posted March 17, 2009 Indeed,Thanks for all the advice,I appreciate your comments!
imagine Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 If you have a gut feeling of mistrust - check it out. No partners can fully trust each other. Always keep tabs. Protect a marriage.
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