Agyeman Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 Hey guys, I've been seeing this girl on & off for the past 2 months. Some of you may remember from my old topic on here. 1st 'date' was for drinks, 2nd 'date' was a chicken dinner (pretty inexpensive) & 3rd date was a sports event (which was last Sunday & I paid for her ticket obviously). Now most of these dates were arranged through e-mail or facebook, which I'm not all too happy with as it seems impersonal. Initially she initiated all the contact, but seeing as I'm a dating novice & inexperienced with women, I stuffed things up and wasn't too receptive to it. After our second date, she went on holiday for a week - which kinda made me realise I like this girl a lot! After our third date last Sunday, she gave me a big hug and kiss on the cheek & she said she had a 'great day', as it was the first soccer match she'd been to. I know I should have arranged the next date before we parted company that day. (For those that know from my old topic - I have kissed this girl already, we met whilst on holiday last year) Now, she seems a very busy girl to me, she has A LOT of girlfriends!....she's a real girly girl - always with her friends it seems, especially weekday evenings. Also she has recently lost her job (2 months notice) & she did apologise to me for not being in contact more, because she had other things on her mind. ie. losing her job. This is my dilemma. Do I continue to contact her & arrange a next date even though she MAY need some space ? Or should I relax, and give her time to gather thoughts & get her life seemingly back on track ? I really don't wanna screw this one up. Any advice welcome. Thank you.
ExBackSystem Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 Trust me, give her space. If she likes you she will most likely contact you. If you have already texted or called her just wait for her to get back to you. If you continue you will end up pushing her away.
Author Agyeman Posted March 15, 2009 Author Posted March 15, 2009 Thanks for your answer. It's really hard for me to decide what to do. I'm getting told that the guy should initiate contact & if you want the girl, you should go get her! But on the other hand, I don't wanna piss her off & pester her. I'm more afraid that I'll lose her to another guy due to my inactivity, more than anything. I think another difficulty is that I haven't made my feelings totally clear to her, as I said before, I kissed her passionately whilst on holiday - but not whilst we've been back home. My inexperience with women really seems to be destroying me right now, I'm feeling really lost.
Surfer Dude Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 Ask her out. Or even better, ask her for a dinner and movie at your place. Try to close the deal this time, as this is your only real opportunity at getting this chick. No one likes being stringed along and she will very likely think you're wussing out if you back off at this point OR that you're not interested. Never wait for a chick to do anything, because they almost never will. Push for a meeting and escalate into sex. I don't see any other ways. Girls are not difficult to get hooked, but they lose interest pretty fast as well, so pushing into physical physical territory is your best way of dealing with this.
St. Nick Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 I say wait a week and then contact her. Don't take her out on anything formal. Make it casual like a walk somewhere or something. Make the date feel as if it is something to get her out of a negative mood. She'll like that.
BobSacamento Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 I would not wait for her to contact you. She might think that your not into her because of her busy life. Give it a day or two but you should ask her out again. I always feel when in doubt always ask them out, never wait. Odds are if she really is busy she'll take a rain check or she'll ask to arrange something a week or two away. I've done that recently, just don't forget!
Author Agyeman Posted March 15, 2009 Author Posted March 15, 2009 Ask her out. Or even better, ask her for a dinner and movie at your place. Try to close the deal this time, as this is your only real opportunity at getting this chick. No one likes being stringed along and she will very likely think you're wussing out if you back off at this point OR that you're not interested. Never wait for a chick to do anything, because they almost never will. Push for a meeting and escalate into sex. I don't see any other ways. Girls are not difficult to get hooked, but they lose interest pretty fast as well, so pushing into physical physical territory is your best way of dealing with this. This is the problem though, neither of us have our own place, we both still live with our parents. I agree with everything you have said though, a girl will never call to arrange a date. So it really is down to me to arrange a meeting, dinner & a movie is what I had in mind.
Author Agyeman Posted March 15, 2009 Author Posted March 15, 2009 I would not wait for her to contact you. She might think that your not into her because of her busy life. Give it a day or two but you should ask her out again. I always feel when in doubt always ask them out, never wait. Odds are if she really is busy she'll take a rain check or she'll ask to arrange something a week or two away. I've done that recently, just don't forget! Thanks for your reply. I'm probably making more out of her 'busyness' than what it actually is. All of our previous dates have been on weeknights, it just seems she's ALWAYS out with her girlfriends, so would like to arrange something with her on a Saturday night.
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