Iluvatar24 Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 So I've decide to type and email to my ex from 3 years ago and just tell her how i still have feelings towards her and that i haven't really forgotten her. she ended it but the main reason was because we were separated for a long time and she couldnt handle it. So i was just wondering for some suggestions about what i should put in this email im going to send her. i would really like the help so please give me some suggestions and ill answers any questions.
Surfer Dude Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 Are you sure you want to do this? You're giving her immense power over yourself if you do this. 3 years is a long time and basically you'll be directly communicating "you still own me and my feelings after all this time". Maybe I'm projecting my ex onto all this, but unless your ex is a kind hearted person with good intentions and plenty of compassion, I wouldn't do it. If there are any indications that she is a manipulative person, you'd do well to forget any kind of contact. Those kinds of people only use others to fuel their ego and validation needs. Tread lightly here.
Beautiful Inside Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 i think the first comment is right unless she is kind hearted and super sweet then id write to her. ummm id say to include how you miss her friendship your constantly reminded of her by little things she was a huge part of your life. you have grown to really appreciate her and little things she did. i hope this helps!
rainbowbrite Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 telling her you still have feelings and such will scare her, prob. make the letter very short, and sweet. and don't show your true colors. say sumtn stupid. like "i was driving by ...(a restaurant u used to go with her) and it got me to thinking about you, it has been so long how are you?" and that way, she prob will answer, and you can ease your way in.
green_tea Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 3 years? That's a long time. Are you both single? What's happened in the 3 years? If I was you I wouldn't do it. But, if there is something you want to say to her, why don't you just say it? You shouldn't need to ask anyone what to say... I've written many emails in the past to someone I'm still trying to get over, and I would just say exactly what was on my mind. However I would advise you to write a draft, leave it for a few days and then make sure you still want to send it. But I do think 3 years is just too long to try to get back with someone.
Author Iluvatar24 Posted March 15, 2009 Author Posted March 15, 2009 she is a very kind hearted person and super nice about everything. like i said she ended it mainly cuz we were separated cuz we went on different vacations with our families and she broke down and ended it. she told me afterwards that she left bad and things could have been different
Author Iluvatar24 Posted March 15, 2009 Author Posted March 15, 2009 Alright this is what I'm thinking about sending her: I do feel like I've grown to appreciate you, and i really do miss your friendship. I"m still reminded sometimes by little things you made part of my life that you made huge. Like how every time I see the clock say 11:11 PM, I'm reminded of you and every time you told me to make a wish. And I still have the CD you made me, and listen to it every once in awhile. You just helped me learn new things in life that have made a huge impact in my life, even with helping me get past...by talking to me...I really do appreciate it. You truly are a kind hearted person with good intentions and plenty of compassion, and I'm very thankful for that. Even though we were together for a short time, I still do care about you and haven't forgotten you and do wish I could talk to you more, but I know we both have very busy lives and everything...In my book your still #1, but Baylor won't be =P Sorry, GO XAVIER!!!
Jay34 Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 so you haven't spoken at all, i wouldn't send that.. i would just start with catching up and see where it goes.
Beautiful Inside Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 awwww even though i just took a huge hit right now and it makes me xtra emo, dude that was way deep it made me almost cry like a movie you know the sad scenes man i really like everything its really genuine and your really putting yourself out there. i love it!!!!
northstar1 Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 Alright this is what I'm thinking about sending her: I do feel like I've grown to appreciate you, and i really do miss your friendship. I"m still reminded sometimes by little things you made part of my life that you made huge. Like how every time I see the clock say 11:11 PM, I'm reminded of you and every time you told me to make a wish. And I still have the CD you made me, and listen to it every once in awhile. You just helped me learn new things in life that have made a huge impact in my life, even with helping me get past...by talking to me...I really do appreciate it. You truly are a kind hearted person with good intentions and plenty of compassion, and I'm very thankful for that. Even though we were together for a short time, I still do care about you and haven't forgotten you and do wish I could talk to you more, but I know we both have very busy lives and everything...In my book your still #1, but Baylor won't be =P Sorry, GO XAVIER!!! If you haven't had contact in 3 years, that is too much for one note, particularly the CD part. Start out slow...........open the door first. Tell her you were someplace and it reminded you of her and you thought about getting in touch to see how she is. Leave it at that. IF she replies, then slowly begin to talk about other things, including the past. I know how you feel, but if I girl I dated wrote me a note 3 years later and the first note talked about listening to a cd I made her back then, I'd find it a bit much.
samspade Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 This would be a nice letter if you were truly only writing to tell her how much you appreciate the time you spent with her. However, you sound like you are motivated to reunite with her. In that light, the letter sounds disingenuous and pathetic. Three years, dude? And she ended it? Unless you have NO desire to get back together with her and could care less what she thinks, don't send it.
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