huck Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 ok - 3 weeks ago my girlfriend of a year came out with the bombshell that her feelings had changed for me and she wasnt sure that she wanted to carry on with our relationship. This had come as a total shock to me as everything seemed perfect in our relationship and i seriously thought id spend the rest of my life with this girl. Things came to a head and she moved out of our rented house to clear her head and decide what she wanted out of her life. It fealt like my whole world had collapsed. In this time we have met up to discuss the probs which have caused this thing to ignite. I admit i have become a bit too needy in the relationship and smothered her a little too much which i was willing to adress and sort out. The main reason for her change of feelings is she doesnt know wether to be in a relationship or basically lead the single life and have the life of a single person and enjoying her life (clubbing - going out with mates etc ). She has had some big changes in the past year and is a different person from the one i first met. Our relationship was pretty intense and we moved in after 3 months which looking back was prop a mistake. Last week we broke up officially - and it was a totally friendly break up - no slagging or arguments - she just didnt want to keep me hanging on while she makes up her mind on what she wants.. She even said this might be the biggest mistake she has ever made in her life.. Since then we have emailed to talk about house stuff and she has said shes still not sure she has made the right decision and is panicking about what has happened.. I made the decision in my mind that I would cut all ties, no contact with her, clear the entire house of blatant stuff that reminded me of her. She has said she still loves me and misses me which makes things even more confusing in my head. In the past week I have got used to the fact that we are over and prepared myself to move on with my life and focus on myself.. Last night i recieved texts from her saying sorry for what shes putting me through and that she has probably made a mistake. ( assume she had been drinking ) This morning she rang to say sorry for texting and theres no way she should of done that. being honest it has put me back to square one with my feelings and im in a mess again. Anyway - would be be good to gauge some opinions from people who have been thru this and what they did. I think id take her back if she agreed to give it a try - but should i have more balls and respect myself and think of myself.. We are meeting up tomorrow to have the ' final ' chat about us and also the house stuff. Cheers for reading..
lostsunsets Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 She was drunk, and melancholy. Continue on with your no contact. If she texts keep it short. never initiate. She will either get the message or she will come to the realization that she need(y)s you. And then the ball is your court.
Excellent Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Second that. Don't initiate anything. Let her come to you, not the other way around.
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