Author blair08 Posted March 22, 2009 Author Posted March 22, 2009 Grrrrr....We talked last night..no things weren't better really but we hashed some things out..he said he knows he needs to work on himself etc etc. I haven't mentioned anything at all about what I feel is happening. I did say I thought he was insecure and I didn't know why...he said he had always been like that (which I'll agree he has, to a point though). We were getting ready to go get the kids from my folks house because they had spent the night. He turns on his music, on the compter as we are getting ready. A song comes on that I like, catchy tuen etc. Yes, its about two people breaking up and wondering if the other one really cared about the other person. I like the sone always have, has nothing to do with the words. However, I find myself signign along to the song, only for him to go off the deep end all of a sudden and accuse me of liking the song because its how I feel about him!!??! WTH? I don't get it!
JackJack Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Wow! I'm sorry you can't even sing along to a song, without him thinking something of it. That doesn't sound like a good way to live. he needs to work on these insecurity issues he has. if not, then you might just have to come to some kind of decison on things. Life is to short to live like that.
hopesndreams Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 Get to the bottom of the way he is acting and do it quickly. The longer this goes on could very well be the end of your relationship. If he does have someone else he is interested in, and if things aren't good at home, it will accelerate the loss of love he has for you and you could lose him. Hopefully, things are in the early stages with whoever is taking your place and if that is the case you could save this relationship. Do it now. Don't wait. Get the proof and confront him with it. Even without finding any proof, sit him down and outright ask him. Also, look up ways to find out when someone is lying before you do this. There are telltale signs from those who lie.
Author blair08 Posted March 24, 2009 Author Posted March 24, 2009 Odd! I noticed that some of the sites I go to, like this one and another marriage/relationship forum, were in HIS history:confused:.....Some were posts I had made and some were not...some were just posts he obviously clicked to read etc... We both have separate screens, always have, so its odd to me that those sites are in his history...nothing else I have been to on my screen is in his history..just those forums....wonder how they got there? I don't go to those forums on his screen....
JackJack Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 Well, it could be, that if has access to your screen, he can go on view or see what you've been looking at. Then he goes on his screen and actually types in the websites to see/read the post etc.
NoIDidn't Posted March 25, 2009 Posted March 25, 2009 I couldn't live like this long term. When I noticed that my H was acting strange, I busted him in less than three days. I don't know how you do it, OP. Now it seems that he's checking up on you too. Not ok.
Author blair08 Posted March 25, 2009 Author Posted March 25, 2009 The thing is, I don't know WHY he is doing this? We've had this conversation before, and he claims I have done nothing wrong to not trust me, which I haven't. But yet he will say he has always had trust issues and insecurities etc. Maybe I should make a post and direct it towards him, since he is looking at the places I go on forums anyway.....tell him "Hey Hun, I see you, I know you're looking, and I hope you've having a good time and find what you're looking for!" ha!
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