melissa123 Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Is that alot? My ex had 5 last year (4 girlfrriends and a boyfriend :S) He dumped them all. Just wondering is that alot to have in one year? Ive had like one relationship in two years!! Also is it a bit strange to dump all 5? Thanks guys!!! Starting to think I should date a whole bunch of randoms just to have a relationship to!
Frankasy Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 I didn't quite catch that 4 gfs and a bf, is he bi? Anyways personally I would consider 5 relationships in 12 months above the average but I don't see why you should be worried about it. Here's why: 1. He's not looking for a serious relationship so you can't expect him to stay for a long time with one gf, she gets boring, he dumps her and finds another without hesitation cause like I said, it's not serious. 2. We're guys, you're girls, we do this sort of stuff(Most of us guys at least), you don't(Most of the girls) so if you think that you and him are equal you're wrong, you're alright.
Author melissa123 Posted March 14, 2009 Author Posted March 14, 2009 lol thanks I cant answer the BI question unfortunatly! He had a seceret 'bf' that no one knew about! I found out later when the guy showed me/told me everything! So I Dont know! Thanks for the help tho, guess I should just wait round till I find someone decent instead of dating a bumch of randoms. To bad I cant find him sigh
Trialbyfire Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Are these relationships where emotions were involved or were they just dating situations, where he dated the same person for a number of weeks at a time?
Author melissa123 Posted March 14, 2009 Author Posted March 14, 2009 Im pretty sure there were emotions involved! I guess he gets bored or changes his mind easily!
yeex Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 5 in a year? I would not necessarily call those relationships, especially with a secret BF or whatever. Can you say major red flags?
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Are these relationships where emotions were involved or were they just dating situations, where he dated the same person for a number of weeks at a time? Important distinction. I would say if there were real feelings involved, and he went through 4 girls and 1 guy (!) in a year, then yes, that's a little strange. I would think that he is not quite emotionally stable if he falls for all these people and then proceeds to dump them all. However, if these are just a series of people he dated and got to know over the course of a year, then it's not as big of a red flag. I would be more worried about the secret bf!
Trialbyfire Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Yup, moving from one person to the next, in short spurts pretty much screams rebound, if there are serious feelings involved. This is standard rebounding, where the person never needs to get over their feelings for another person, since they transfer those emotions from person to person. Once they realize they don't know or really feel for the other person as an individual, their feelings evaporate, since in essence, they've transposed another personna onto that person. Now if it's simply a case of lust, from person to person, then it's just a form of compartmentalization. There are no softer or deeper emotions involved and when lust fades, they move on. The third scenario is that if they don't sleep with every one of these people, your ex is just dating, as dating is meant to be, which would be trying to find the right fit. No big deal. Overall, since this person is your ex, it's better that you don't worry about what he's done and focus on yourself, to move on. It's his life to make work or to eff up.
prettybaby Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Your ex-boyfriend would be so far down my list of potential dates.
jenniferlm Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 liking guys could explain for why he goes through so many women. notice there was only one man, well that you know about anyway, but 4 girls. he;s not gonna be happy with any girl he dates if he's gay, and just hasn't come to terms with it yet. you can ask him about it, but since he's not come to terms with it yet there's NO way he'll be able totell you the truth. I kinda feel bad for the both of you. best of luck
tkgirl Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Your ex-boyfriend would be so far down my list of potential dates. he wouldn't even be ON my list!
Girlygirl1977 Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Is that alot? My ex had 5 last year (4 girlfrriends and a boyfriend :S) He dumped them all. What a hot mess! You should be happy he is your ex:o I'm sorry but secret bf?! It sounds like he is probably gay but not fully out. . .and/or very promiscuous. . ..girlfriends, boyfriends = sex partners, not relationships I think. How old are you guys? The whole things sounds ridiculous.
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