Ruby Slippers Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 So, I checked my ex's myspace today. I know, stupid, but I was feeling weak and sad. I hardly ever look at it now, but I did today. Breakups were so much easier before stupid social networking sites. And he STILL has pictures of us on there, even though I broke up with him six months ago. It annoys me. I feel like since we are no longer together, he shouldn't leave pictures of me on his page. I would just ask him to take them down, but we have not had contact since then, as I told him not to contact me, and I don't want to contact him just for that. I just wish he'd remove them. Does this seem weird to anyone else? Why would he do it?
sb129 Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 My ex still has photos of mine on his MS page- some of them are ones I took when he wasn't even there! Its not worth breaking NC over- maybe he just hasn't thought to remove them. This is a pretty good indication he is still single, as a new GF may have has issues with them!
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 You do you care exactly, he'll take them down when he's ready to, you already dumped him once. leave him be, he'll move on when he's ready! Maybe the man had deeper feelings for you than you know and it's taking time for him to move on after what you did. dag....
gwynieatpain Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Leave him alone. Not worth to break NC for things like these. My ex has posted our old pictures here and there on the internet. It doesn't bother him nor does me. After 5 months of break up he has posted photos with him messing up with girls in clubs and bars while having our pictures on the same online photo album still. Honestly I have the same question as you do, but I choose to put it aside as it's nothing important to me anymore.
Author Ruby Slippers Posted March 14, 2009 Author Posted March 14, 2009 Maybe the man had deeper feelings for you than you know and it's taking time for him to move on after what you did. "After what I did"? That sounds judgmental to me. I broke up with him because of things he was doing wrong, which I made explicitly clear, which he agreed were problems, and which he promised to improve on but did not. I'm not going to contact him. I just don't get why someone would leave up photos of their ex like that, six months after the breakup. I could never see myself doing that, no matter how much I loved the guy.
Excellent Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Just because he did things wrong and failed to improve doesn't mean he can't miss you. But i agree with the others, don't bother to contact him. He will eventually take them down when he's ready or heading into another relationship.
sinkerswim Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 I think it may be normal for him. When he is ready to take them down... he will. If you broke it off with him...then he is probably still really missing you and the relationship you had. When he feels like he is healed...I am sure he will take them off.
climbergirl Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 I don't think it's a big deal. A friend of mine tagged photos of her and me and my ex happens to be in them. I'm not going to take them down just because he's in them. I like the photos. You might be reading too much into it.
carhill Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 OP, do you understand that your time with him was and will always be a part of both of your life histories and that history is valuable? When you die, that's all you'll have. You broke up with him because of perceived inadequacies on his part. Good. He's history. The pictures are irrelevant to you. Got that. Move on. Don't apply your rules to others. They apply only to you.
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 "After what I did"? That sounds judgmental to me. I broke up with him because of things he was doing wrong, which I made explicitly clear, which he agreed were problems, and which he promised to improve on but did not. I'm not going to contact him. I just don't get why someone would leave up photos of their ex like that, six months after the breakup. I could never see myself doing that, no matter how much I loved the guy. It aint judgemental check what im saying from my standpoint. Even if he was doing you wrong and doing dumb crap, he'd still have feelings because he still have feelings. Even people who cheat on their husbands or wives still got feelings for them even after divorce. I responded before I got the full story, forgive me for jumping the gun! Hel'll take it down in due time. If your moving on, why do you care??? understand? what he does and how he remembers you should not be any of your concern live your life for you. dagg.....
Author Ruby Slippers Posted March 15, 2009 Author Posted March 15, 2009 If you broke it off with him...then he is probably still really missing you and the relationship you had. When he feels like he is healed...I am sure he will take them off. I think you are right. A friend who lives in my old neighborhood, where he still lives, came over today. She told me she crossed paths with him this afternoon! She said it looks like he's gained quite a bit of weight, and said that combined with the pictures suggests he's been pining for me. The reason I cared about the pictures, I think, is that so often it seemed like he just did not give a crap. It didn't add up to me that he'd leave those sappy pictures of us up. I guess he did give a crap, but just really sucked at showing it. What she told me made me glad because at least I have some hint that he DID care, but it also made me sad for him, and sad for us, because what could have been such a good thing had to go to waste.
love_fool Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 That just goes to show that's he's not fully healed. He will take them down, don't let your mind wander on the thought that 'he still has feelings for you'. He will take them down, and when he does, it will hurt you. But disregard the fact that they're still there, and move on.
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