salmagundi Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 So here's my question and I love some feedback. I'm going out with a girl for almost five months now. About a month ago I finally got around to adding her as a friend on Facebook. Before it both wasnt a priority and...I dunno...I guess I figured facebook should come after I colonize her bathroom with my toothbrush, but anyway... I decided to friend her finally because I'm going to go do some forestry work in BC so I'll be living in crazy bush camps in the middle of nowhere and other then the telephone the internet will be the only way we'll be able to keep in touch (and even then, only when we fly into some desolate clap board deadwood mill town in the middle of nowhere on days off. So I thought that now made sense to go facebook with her. The thing is she took a month to getting around to responding and when she did, I was like, "hey thats wierd, here profile page has all kinds of crap about the last time she used an application or threw someone a snowball (?) and crap like that but NO POSTS... Which is her business but either she has 300 friends and nobody posts ANYTHING or she's set her privacy settings so I cant see what they've written. My question is, why might she do that and is it any of my business to find it wierd...a little bit?
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 I was like, "hey thats wierd, here profile page has all kinds of crap about the last time she used an application or threw someone a snowball (?) and crap like that but NO POSTS... Hahaha. That snowball line made me laugh. I would think that if you have been going out for 5 months, you would be close enough to her to be able to just ask. Or is it just so weird, you feel uncomfortable asking? If she is screening her posts from you, after 5 months of dating, I would think that is weird.
gwynieatpain Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Which is her business but either she has 300 friends and nobody posts ANYTHING or she's set her privacy settings so I cant see what they've written. My question is, why might she do that and is it any of my business to find it wierd...a little bit? Oh so many possibilities I could think of. She may have a habit of adding strangers (maybe that's where the 300 friends come from), whom she barely speaks to. She may be too busy to check her facebook so better off shut down her wall posts from all friends. She may have something hiding from you so she's set her privacy setting so you can't see what's on there. Personally I wouldn't suggest to ask her what was going on about her fb activities. What would you expect to hear? If it does really bother you, confront to her about your feeling. I wouldn't judge her by what she did on her fb. Well but in my case, I meet a guy who friends with Asian pornstars on fb and, he likes me. That's really creepy.
I'm Joe Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Whatever the case is you should be able to ask her whats up... if its for a reason you don't approve of, then you might want to reconsider where you stand with each other.
385 Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 I would think that if you have been going out for 5 months, you would be close enough to her to be able to just ask. Just be like, 'your facebook is so boring, does nobody want to talk to you besides me?' And if she says, blah blah, i get facebook comments all the time. Then you got your privacy setting answer.
xenomaniac Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Wait, does she have a "visible" Wall? Because my SO has his "wall" turned off so that no one can comment on it. It's just a personal preference. He mainly uses his page for promotion/networking, not actual correspondence. It's not a big deal.
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