Alan430 Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Is being a single father an attractive quality? Or more of a nuisance?
jenniferlm Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Depends. If he'd been divorced a while, and the kids had adjusted well.... and if he was on GOOD terms with his ex. As in, they are FRIENDS. And not enemies, or cold to one another. And it was clear that the ex wife had moved on and so had the single father... I really wouldn't (and dont')have any problem with it, as long as his kids get along well most of the time with mine. And are nicely behaved. Not asking for perfection, just not heathens. lol I hope this helps???
dmarisca Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Maybe because when a man can take care of neediness of a baby, tantrums of a toddler, the sudden mood swings of little one, taking care of a woman is an easy feat for him. Women want a man who can take care of himself and his family. That doesn’t mean men cannot or should not be vulnerable with their woman. What it means is the man is mature and grown-up. But with this according to an opinion research poll - confidence is the single best quality that enhances every other quality that is important in attracting women.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Yeah, not if you're from Seattle and just appeared on a reality show! Did you break up with Molly or something? Just kidding. As to your question...I wouldn't mind it at all. In fact, since I don't think I want to have my own children, it can be a benefit. He already has a kid in his life. If the kid is a brat who hates all of daddy's girlfriends....then no.
yongyong Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 well don't get offended though. you have a daughter. you worked hard to provide the best for her now she is old enough and wants to get married with a single daddy, are you going to say 'yes' without thinking about it?
sb129 Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Not on its own, no, I don't think its an unattractive quality. Its the rest of the package and how well you cope with being a single dad (this includes as another poster said relationship with childs mum etc etc) that is important.
Lucky_One Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 Totally depends on what the woman is looking for in a relationship. And also depends on how much parenting the dad does - is he the only parent of the child, or is he a every-other-weekend dad? How old the child factors, too. I also would think that the younger the woman, the less likely she is to want to date a single dad.
Cherished Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 Totally not, but I was serious with a guy who let his two kids walk all over him and had no discipline skills and his two kids still living at home were living terrors. It was not a happy house, it was screaming and yelling, spoiled bratty kids 24/7, even when he called, they were screaming in the background. He didn't want them to grow up hating him because of the divorce so he let them treat him like c**p. His older 20 year old son was also just horrible and rude. Other than this he was a great guy, but I couldn't go to the next level with him because of this, and I ultimately ended it because he had no control over his kids. If he is a dad who is was a wonderful father, that would be great, and you can be a devoted, loving father without raising kids that way.
neowulf Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 I was talking with this topic just today with a female friend of mine. The guy had 3 young children. The issue I can see is that as a good parent, the children are going to have to come first. That's how it works. His responsibility is to them first and foremost. The new girlfriend wants to feel like a priority in his life. So, in an effort to make her feel like one, he may side with her over matters concerning the children. Said children then *resent* new girlfriend for trying to "play mum" with them, thus leading to tension. I know this is all generalisation, but children generally aren't real happy to see their parents split up. They're usually even *less* happy when the parents move onto "dating" other people. I'm sad to say, but I see existing children as baggage. I don't think I'd want the complication unless I was *very* deeply in love in the person involved.
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