colosseum Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Help. Okay, recently I've lost my rhythm in the dating world. I can a lunch, a meal, a movie, a date, pretty comfortably. But then it's as if I've forgotten what to do NEXT: when to call, what to say, what to do, how to "read" things etc. etc. I don't know if I've been scared or uncharacteristically insecure lately or what, but man, it's frustrating. These ladies are cute, smart, and they seem interested most of the time, but I'm screwing up on the follow-up, if there is any! Help...! Thanks! -In a weird funk
chrislovestosurf Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Go with your gut on when to call them, just dont do it the very next day. How old are you? Have you ever dated before? If youre on the phone then keep it very short and sweet. Just be yourself around them on the date, if they dont like it then goodbye. If you are scared they are going to see it right away and run. Its really an unattractive thing to women. You can be a complete tool, but for some reason showing confidence is enough for a woman. It seems to overshadow any other characteristic of the male personality. You know what Im talking about, you see a lot of dickheads out there with hot women. Why? because they exude confidence.
Author colosseum Posted March 16, 2009 Author Posted March 16, 2009 I'm in college and have been with several women before, but I broke up with a girl about 2 months ago, and I wonder if that's acting as an impediment subconsciously...I'm telling myself it shouldn't and that I'm over her and I think I am. For some reason I always find myself asking the question "So now what" with the girl's phone number in my cell after a great first date. And that is what's frustrating.
jadelil25 Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 If you have had a good time then just call them a couple of days later and let them know that you had a good time and just be polite and friendly. Just go with the flow and do what you feel is comftable. If you call or txt shortly after the date you will come across as desperate but if you leave it say two days then it shows that you are interested but you have not waited two long before making the next step. Just go with the flow in the conversation on the phone and see what she says and then just ask about meeting up again soon. It will be fine. Just be your self, be confident, focus on the positives and remember that dating is fun.
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