allieapplesauce Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Just a quick question. I'm still just scared of getting hurt again. The last 3 guys have seemed interested (at least when I was in the middle) now on the outside I look back and maybe they're weren't so interested the way they acted. But they just upped and disappeared without any warning, so I feel scared the current guy could do the same. When I first met him I felt that spark that "he's the one" gut feeling. He sent me flowers the second week. He tells me I'm cute, gorgeous, adorable, etc all the time. Cuddly. When he sees me he says things like "boy are you a sight for sore eyes" We've had talks about the relationship. He's confided in me some things he went through several years ago he was worried would make me walk away. He calls every night. Calls me honey, sweetheart, etc.. Texts me things like i have been thinking about you all day. you are the sweetest girl in the world. how did i get so lucky? he says hes scared i'll walk away and he'll get hurt he said hes not going anywhere he asked if i wanted to give this a thing a real shot he asked if i wanted to go on vacation with him sometime (even tho its early in the relationshp) other future related things about marriage and kids (not really me and him but in general) was in my area near work for his own job for a day or two and had gone to my work and found my car and put a strip of paper on my wiper with XOXOXOXO made comments like "we're together" "you're my girl" etc he could be the one. im just like scared of getting hurt like he'll go away. i've gotten discouraged b/c these guys have treated me like **** like im not worthy of a relationship. i dont know why this guy picked me now. to me i think he could be the one. i feel like no guys committ b/c of everything every always says about all guys are players, all guys cant committ, all guys run at the first sign that a girl is interested b/c the chase is done there's no thrill. does it sound like he's for real you think? i dont know what to do except go with the flow but i dont know if thats the right way to do it.
Beautiful Inside Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 wow for a second i had a memory recap.....im super jealous of you right now
Beautiful Inside Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 thats what love is taking chances you cant skip out on love because of past incidents or worried you'll get hurt you never know with love anything is possible. life is so short id say he sounds amazing give him a shot enjoy each others company and be open about everything
Author allieapplesauce Posted March 16, 2009 Author Posted March 16, 2009 i guess that's what we're working on. He keeps telling me I'm beautiful and amazing and he's falling for me and he promised he isn't going to run away. (that's a big promise) and that he was ready. im still just so scared but i hope he is different!! I'm hoping the fact that i instantly felt that "spark" that immediate thought of "he's the one" when i first saw him before i knew him is something i can hold on to...do you think both people have to feel that or that we both did at the same time?
Still Trying Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Hey you just have to go with it. None of us know exactly what the other person is thinking. from a guy's perspective - any time I've acted that way towards a girl it was because I really liked them. Keep your chin up and keep the thoughts positive.
Author allieapplesauce Posted March 21, 2009 Author Posted March 21, 2009 that's good to know still trying. Question: how many of you have dated guys who would take you out and pay, act interested by wanting to hang out and pay but at the same time there was no affection like hugging, kissing, cuddling, saying i like you, compliments, etc? cause i've had guys like that, i actually though it was kinda normal but in hindsight and because this guy is so talkative about these types of things, i am seeing those other guys as NOT being normal! it's a crazy feeling isn't it?
nothappyjan Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 that's good to know still trying. Question: how many of you have dated guys who would take you out and pay, act interested by wanting to hang out and pay but at the same time there was no affection like hugging, kissing, cuddling, saying i like you, compliments, etc? cause i've had guys like that, i actually though it was kinda normal but in hindsight and because this guy is so talkative about these types of things, i am seeing those other guys as NOT being normal! it's a crazy feeling isn't it? The above example is exactly how the guy who just disappeared on my after 3 or so months of dating and 8months of knowing each other. Except this guy said the same thing of the original poster, that he wasnt going anywhere and he would plan future dates and then one day without warning and no behaviour change I never heard from him again. But he never complimented me or talked about his feelings or even had a xo at the end of a msg hahah. Good luck i hope ur guy works ou, he sounds lovely
Author allieapplesauce Posted April 8, 2009 Author Posted April 8, 2009 nothappyjan, sorry guess i knwo how you feels. that sucks. what gets me is i guess i get why they do it--they have no balls to face up to us! but they ruin a perfectly good relationship! I mean, with my guy i had a great summer with hima nd instead of necessarily looking back on it fondly, i feel kinda sad. b/c im over him and totally into my new guy and im sad i wasted all that time with someone who after 5 mo just upped and disappeared!!!! boys can be so lame
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