BobSacamento Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 So I've been doing this online dating thing. Talked to some women that were ok and met some that were just ok. But now I've been talking to two women who are very good prospects. And I have 2 dates within 1 week. I am not very experienced with dating 2 women at the same time and would really like to get to know both of them. I guess my questions are: Is this wise? What do women think of this? I feel like if they ask I would have to tell them the truth and it's probably a big turn off. I just don't like missed opportunities though. Also one of the women deleted her profile right after I asked to met. What the hell is up with that?
carhill Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 IMO, two women in one week is fine. On the same day, not so fine (I did this for awhile many, many years ago). Profile poof? No worries, it's either she does guys one at a time or she's playing with you. I would attach no significance. Don't even mention it
missdependant Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 No big deal. You aren't married to either of them. You aren't in a relationship with either of them. I wouldn't suggest doing it long-term, but for the time being it's a great idea.. keep your options open.
yongyong Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Did she ask you 'I want to be in an exclusive relationship with you' and did you agree by signing a contract in front of third wintness? lol Trust me, especially for online dating, she must have more candidates than you do. That's so silly you are feeling guilty about it when she is going out with different guys every weekends! Just don't bring it up though. I talked on the phone with some girls before going out and they said 'I am going out on a date'. I thought that was just rude. If they ask , Lie. Just tell them you met someone before and there was no spark. don't be a silly honest guy like me before. sometimes honesty will only make it worse.
Author BobSacamento Posted March 14, 2009 Author Posted March 14, 2009 I honestly in no way plan on mentioning it lol. I have been asked if I've done this before. That was odd lol. I thought she was asking if I've dated before haha but I guess she meant the online deal. I really think this is a good strategy. Not keeping your eggs in one basket. It keeps the pressure off the dates. Like I'm not going into the dates thinking "You better not blow it!"
jenniferlm Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 I don't think there's anything wrong with it in the beginning, provided you're honest, and nice about it. But when it comes to being intimate with someone, you might want to make it clear that you're either exclusive or still dating around...that way she knows where she stands...
Girlygirl1977 Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 If you haven't even gone out - no need to explain. That should be the case for sure for the first couple of dates too. This is online dating for goodness sakes?! I think all parties have to assume this.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Bob, with online dating it is assumed that your dates are multi-dating. I almost hesitate to call them dates. You are just meeting people that you've only known previously from a fuzzy computerized picture, a few zingy quotes , followed by attempts to appear as interesting and not desperate as possible. *I have so many friends!* *I have a full and busy life!* *I don't really need to meet a man, but I figured, why not try this thing?* To me, it's not a date until you've spent a little time getting to know each other and decide mutually to see each other again. So go for it! I did online dating for a little while. Honestly, I found it difficult to juggle the people. Usually one of us weeded the other out before too long, though.
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