Morgenstern Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 I am trying to help myself get through the grieving process, and one of the things I did today, the 10th day since she passed is taking the stuff of hers I have, and just put it away. I changed my wallpapers and backgrounds too. I figure maybe I can get used to life without her again for a little bit, and then bring the stuff back out. Do you think this is a good or bad idea.
kizik Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 Hi Morgen, I think you are doing the right thing by putting reminders out of sight. Please do whatever you have to do to ease the pain (drugs excluded, of course). I am so sorry for your loss. Josh
blondesmiler Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 Out of the way, put in one place within another place, make it a real pain to get to them.....that way if your tempted to look then the time that it takes to get to them might be time enough to make you think twice about it and not do it! I never got mine back out again, cause once your over it, the things will have no feeling anymore and you won't be bothered about looking.
anne1707 Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 Morgen I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot even begin to understand how you must be feeling now. You can only do what feels right for you on a day by day, even hour by hour basis. I know it sounds crass but you will find your way through this and find life again.
Trialbyfire Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 I'm sincerely sorry for your tragic loss Morgenstern. ((hugs)) Put everything away but try not to repress your grief. There's nothing wrong with crying, if you feel like it. There's also nothing wrong with moving forward with your life, if you've dealt with your grief.
marlena Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 Do whatever will alleviate your pain.. no matter how slightly, no matter how temporarily... I did this too ...after my divorce and after losing my mother.
Author Morgenstern Posted March 13, 2009 Author Posted March 13, 2009 Well I feel better than I did the past week in some ways. I dont cry anymore, nothing bothers me. She died by crashing into a tractor trailer, and I watched the news report today for the first time and I had no response, im just dead inside. Im depressed to say the least. ---- Anyway I already wrote this stuff a bunch of times before, to get myself on topic... I realized that by having all of her stuff around me, and surrounding myself with her, I was really expecting her to come back. I figured if I did this, I would realize what happened and get used to life alone again. And to the person who said they will mean nothing to me, they certainly will and i am sure that no matter who else comes into my life, they won't ever be as special to me as she was. May I love again? I know I will i need to love as a part of my personality. Will it be like with her? I doubt it. Edit: I noticed people calling me Morgen, Morgenstern is actually German for Morning Star lol. My name is Nathan.
EmperorR Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 I'm really really sorry for your loss. It may help just to put things away just for now if it makes you feel better, you can always go look at them whenever you want. Again really sorry for your loss.
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