likestolaugh Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 well at least you know he doesn't want to break up with you... if he wants to bring you with him to his mom's house.
Touche Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 well at least you know he doesn't want to break up with you... if he wants to bring you with him to his mom's house. Exactly. Have a good time with him today, dreamer. Don't make a big deal about anything.
Author dreamergrl Posted March 14, 2009 Author Posted March 14, 2009 I wont make a deal about anything, but I'm trying to figure out the right words for when I apologize. I want to tell him my feelings on why I the way I was but not make it an excuse, if that makes any sense
Touche Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 I wont make a deal about anything, but I'm trying to figure out the right words for when I apologize. I want to tell him my feelings on why I the way I was but not make it an excuse, if that makes any sense Keep it simple and leave him out of it. I mean don't say anything about HIS actions. Just tell him you feel badly for being so moody and you're sorry you gave him a hard time. That's it.
Trialbyfire Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Dreamergrl, just own the things that belong to you without making a big deal of it. Don't own the things that don't belong to you because it can become a repetitive pattern of someone else always believing their right, when it usually takes two to tango. Make it simple.
tkgirl Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 I wont make a deal about anything, but I'm trying to figure out the right words for when I apologize. I want to tell him my feelings on why I the way I was but not make it an excuse, if that makes any sense guys don't really like the "feelings" type of talk.... IMHO just say something like "I'm sorry we fought" and then act like your cool with everything now and have a fun day with him... he'll respond to that more than any kind of talk about "feelings".. good luck!
Author dreamergrl Posted March 14, 2009 Author Posted March 14, 2009 Okay! Thanks everyone for all the support and comments. You have no idea how much it's helped me get through this and sort out my thoughts. I'm so glad for this board and all the great people!
oceangrl Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 I agree with everyone else, keep it simple. You create what you share. So if you go into your feelings....your gonna take him through all those emotions. Not good. Just apologize and leave it at that and keep it positive.
sb129 Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 I am glad he called too! I think she's probably left now, but my advice was to get prettied up, look hot, and BE COOL. No more drama! See how unnecessary most of your worrying was??? Don't talk too much about the fight, and def don't moan about how he went out last night or anything. Apologise for being a b*tch, and leave it at that. Hope you had a fun day DG.
carhill Posted March 14, 2009 Posted March 14, 2009 Hey OP, you're likely out the door but I wanted to chime in and wish you a great day with your guy. I read the entire thread and find the advice you received to mesh well with my life experience. I will add, from a man's perspective, not to underestimate the value of meeting his mother. That's important stuff. Let that experience and the value of what you learned here guide your future actions. FWIW, men go through emotional cycles too and, in time, you will discern them in your partner. Relationships are about mutual understanding and caring. Best wishes to you in yours
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