ERIC_H Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 Okay this situation is kinda weird, but I figured I'd see what you guys all thought.I'm not in a relationship with this girl, and haven't in the past. We live in different states, but only a couple hour drive away, and about an hour flight. Nothing bad. But nothing that helps either. Now this girl is awesome, she's no joke everything I want in a girl. We have become best friends since, texting and talking on the phone all of the time. We send each other pictures of us doing just goofy things. After a while I started to really fall for her, because I loved her personality and who she was. A good start I thought. After a while she kinda started to do and say things that made me think she was interested in me. She would call me at like 10:30 at night and we would talk until 2. If she was feeling sick or couldn't sleep she'd call me to help her sleep, and because she said she loved my voice. She would talk to me ALL the time, and I really liked that. But then things started to get interesting. She started saying she had a dream where it was our wedding, she would have dreams of us together at her friends house's and she would be talking about us having kids and stuff. And she would be asking me how I felt about her even though she already knew. Then one morning I woke up to a text saying how she could actually see herself with me and all these reasons why she liked me. That I was patient with her, that I treated her nice. Unlike other guys. That her family loved me. That was last week. Just the other day she randomly texts me saying that when she goes out of state she doesn't want to talk to anybody. And that she doesn't think she likes me anymore and that we should stay friends. What got to me is she was saying I was like her dad and that I baby her? Which to me I don't get because I am not like that at all, but when I asked her how she said she was "busy". She said she didn't want to be in another long distance relationship, which I understood, but I haven't pushed for or brought up being together yet. I guess it's just frustrating because of everything she has said and done up until now. She said her family loves me. I'm the first good guy that has come around, and every other guy has been a bum and taken advantage of her. She acted like she was interested and really cared about me. And litterally overnight she changed her mind. She said she wants to hang out with friends and "go with the flow". What do you guys think? Can anyone relate?
Tony T Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 She sounds quite normal to me, her mind being subject to change without notice. Get used to it. There is no further explanation available. If she is young, it is often the kiss of death if the parents like you. Also, it is absolutely normal for many very young ladies to change their minds often as they grow and mature. Nevertheless, it is still painful if you're on the receiving end of the pain.
Author ERIC_H Posted March 13, 2009 Author Posted March 13, 2009 Yeah. I guess the reason it sucks is because she made it sound like she was really into me. She was always saying how she wanted to be with a good guy for once. And when she said her family liked me she didn't make it seem like a bad thing. She made it seem like it was a good thing. I don't know. I'm wondering if she just wants more time for herself before she tries another relationship. That's what I got out of our "conversation" last night. She was saying she just wants to hang out with friends and wants to be single. She was saying "just let me go like that for now. Detach yourself and just be my friend." So I don't know if that makes a difference. I just don't think she's ready for any kind of relationship right now(keep in mind I haven't brought up being in one with her yet). I don't want to have any false hope though. I've waited around to see what a girl will do and I'm not doing it this time. But I will keep my ears open lol. Still wondering what everyone thinks though.
Beautiful Inside Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 yea i deff think things would prob be different if you guys lived closer.... well i wouldn't wait around for her though what if she ends up meeting someone you know it could happen i think you should just keep things normal and if someone comes along in your life another girl i would go for it since she obviously is saying lets do our own thing for right now...ive been in situations with good guy friends where i was lonely at the time so i leaned towards them for their attention. i know its not the right thing to do but girls can be very needy...
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