saddy Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 I met a girl through online dating and we've just been on a few dates so far but we've already planned 2 other dates (this weekend, next weekend). The one next weekend is a show, so it's quite expensive. At this point, it sounds weird to me to plan such an expensive date more than a week in advance: After all we barely know each other and everything could be over in just a blink! She doesn't seem to bother about that, which makes me think that she's quite into me but on the other hand, she's still checking her online dating account everyday... I don't know what to think and I really wonder if I should buy these tickets (because yeah, I am supposed to buy the tickets before she pays her half)... The problem is that if I wait to much, tickets are gonna be even more expensive.
Nebo74 Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 Don't know how they do things out west, but here in Middle America USA you can date as many people, check as many dating sites, and lead on as single (because you are) until you have the exclusive talk. One, Two, or even 10 dates means horse-mini's unless you have "the talk." Until then, all bets are off.. No matter how well you two click. The second thing is.. Dating sites can be a form of comfortable communication. She's at home, secure, and is exchanging emails in a way that doesn't put her "out there." .. I'm on a dating website with the intent to make female friends as opposed to find "the one." and my profile says it also. Of course if love bubbles up great, but so far I've made some really good friends and personaly, I enjoy the female/male dynamic in all forms. She might just be like that as well. And for all you know she might be talking to another guy asking what he thinks of your actions. Never assume anything. If it bothers you ask, but realize when you ask you might get what you ask for and sometimes it's not what it appears to be. Good Luck!
Ocean-Blue Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 If that incredible spark was ther,e she'd only be focusing on you. She's not. What does that mean? She's still keeping her options open. You have to deal with it.
DunnoWhat Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 Shes at home, time to spare, shes surfing the net, then she decides to check her mails out of habit more then anything else. It might be that simple. If a relationship develops eventually then let her know that her having an account on a dating site is not acceptable to you
Art_Critic Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 I met a girl through online dating and we've just been on a few dates so far but we've already planned 2 other dates (this weekend, next weekend). The one next weekend is a show, so it's quite expensive. At this point, it sounds weird to me to plan such an expensive date more than a week in advance: After all we barely know each other and everything could be over in just a blink! She doesn't seem to bother about that, which makes me think that she's quite into me but on the other hand, she's still checking her online dating account everyday... I don't know what to think and I really wonder if I should buy these tickets (because yeah, I am supposed to buy the tickets before she pays her half)... The problem is that if I wait to much, tickets are gonna be even more expensive. Money seems to be your driving force here... not that is is a bad thing as you know your own budget but since I noticed it then maybe you should too... What I would do if I were in your shoes is nail down with her the exact day of the date and explain to her that you have to buy the tickets in advance ( don't mention the cost ) and you wanted to nail down the day to purchase the tickets.. Are we still on for that night ? If you can't get a finalized date plan with her then don't buy the tickets and if you have to buy them later at a slightly higher cost then just suck it up.. trying to pinch pennies at this time isn't a wise move and in the end could cost you if she cancels the date. As far as the online profile goes.. you are not exclusive to each other and she is most likely still talking to other guys.. part of dating.. The exclusivity doesn't happen till after many more dates have happened and you both talk about it with each other. The other thing I was thinking about is that if money is a big issue then why not put off the date and go for something less expensive like dinner till you guys get to know each other and you feel more comfortable... that way there is less stress on you about everything ?
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