rlindzie Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 am i doing too much? i think i might be the one in the relationship that is doing the heavy lifting. i do so much for my bf and all i get is his left overs! by that i mean when his left over time, energy and everything eles. i mean i do so much for him, i make him feel good, i try and talk to him, i give him hot pics daily, i mean i do a lot for him and the retun is not there! i mean he says he never sees his friends but then whenever we talk he is out the door with his friends. and then he says be honest and i try and bring it up but all he says is "is this gonna be a problem later on?" i mean what is that about?! idk what to do and i obviously cant talk to him about it. and he says too much talking can end a realtionship! i have no other way to talk about it or get answers but on here so i hope you guys can help i need your opinions! thanks!
St. Nick Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 I'm not certain what you mean by "doing too much but no return". Could you be more specific on what you're doing? But I'll try to answer it anyway. Maybe he's losing interest in you. If you had any interests or hobbies you could share with him he'd be closer to you. This kind of stuff happens to me with many women I know. They spend time with their boyfriends but they don't do activities together. Going to the movies, shopping at the mall together, or going out to restaurants are not real activities. When is the last time you played a game together or had a conversation about a thing you liked such as music, movies, or sports. Form some actual interests and the relationship will get better, that's for sure.
samiam143 Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 Switch it. Get busy... As in don't make yourself so available... That's what I do because my guy is a pleaser, he wants to please EVERYONE so he volunteers for extra crap at work, to go out with his friends, runs marathons and I feel like I'm on the backburner sometimes so I just make myself busy. I go out with friends, go to the gym, read a book etc etc. If you keep busy you won't notice as much and when he wants to see you and your busy follow through with your plans, do not bail out so you can see him. Gotta set some standards at some point.
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