justmestag Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 After our daughter told my ex that my current husband and I are fighting a lot, he (the ex) called for forgiveness in everything he did in our marriage. I mean forgiveness for EVERYTHING. Things I didn't even know about. I forgave him. He is a good guy...just did stinky things. My friends say he regrets the divorce (5 years ago) and wants me back. I don't know. He didn't say that...but he said an hour and a half of 'I'm sorry' and 'You didn't deserve that'. He never remarried-I did. Can I have a man's perspective? Please.
Peter_pan Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 yeah your re married. so leave your ex alone. and get on with your current position.
BCCA Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 After our daughter told my ex that my current husband and I are fighting a lot, he (the ex) called for forgiveness in everything he did in our marriage. I mean forgiveness for EVERYTHING. Things I didn't even know about. I forgave him. He is a good guy...just did stinky things. My friends say he regrets the divorce (5 years ago) and wants me back. I don't know. He didn't say that...but he said an hour and a half of 'I'm sorry' and 'You didn't deserve that'. He never remarried-I did. Can I have a man's perspective? Please. He could have felt like crap for the last five years, and realized that he would be much better off just admitting his mistakes, getting it all out in the clear, and hearing you say you forgive him. Chances are, he hasnt told ANYONE else any of that stuff either, and thats quite a burden to carry. I dont think he wants you back, per say, I just think he wanted to make amends and figured it was a good time. This is the problem with ex's, no matter what the circumstance or how much time has passed, any contact is initially percieved as an attempt to get you back. Personally, it doesnt sound like that to me at all - just a guilty concious. He could have not been able to meet anyone because of it, honestly. Women have the luxury of having a support group of other girls willing to listen. Guys dont want to hear others guys problems and life details, unless they involve getting beer, eating, or a hot chick youre going to hook me up with.
Alan430 Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 After our daughter told my ex that my current husband and I are fighting a lot, he (the ex) called for forgiveness in everything he did in our marriage. I mean forgiveness for EVERYTHING. Things I didn't even know about. I forgave him. He is a good guy...just did stinky things. My friends say he regrets the divorce (5 years ago) and wants me back. I don't know. He didn't say that...but he said an hour and a half of 'I'm sorry' and 'You didn't deserve that'. He never remarried-I did. Can I have a man's perspective? Please. Perspective on what? He probably has plenty of time to think about what he did and how he played the key part in the divorce. Its called regret. Im sure he feels it and it probably has made him a better man. For me i know it did....
chrissreef Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 I've cheated before... but i'm not a lifelong cheater now, worst mistake ever. I believe everyone makes mistakes and often they don't realize it until after the fact. I also believe we take things for granted... until we lose it and then we realize what we've lost. That said, you remarried so you could forgive him, but deciding to allow him back into your life as friends or more, i dunno, that's up to you. if you're happily married, it could be devasting to all.
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