so gutted Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 I sent a message to a guy i liked online about 9 months ago. He logged on recently and replied back. He asked if I had another pic (the first one was kind of hazy). We exchanged about 3 emails, very short asking about each other. I then sent the second pic and replied to his questions. I have not heard since, that was 2 days ago. I then (of course) had to go one step further and send him a message saying "maybe you do not like my pictures, if so please could you delete thanks.x " No reply. It seems that: a) he definetly doesnt use the site much - as he hadnt been on it for months, you can tell the date of last log in. b) he started to show an interest when he read my message - but went dead quiet after the 2nd pic and the email today. Is this his way of saying no thanks - in which case why not write a line back saying this? Or is he "busy". Or does he not know how to respond to online queries. I think he would have checked his hotmail within 2 days - everyone does dont they??? For some reason this has really got to me...I found myself getting out of bed and logging in at 12.45 last night in case I missed it and thn first thing. I also checked his facebook profile, and i definetly fancy him a lot. I feel sad and pathetic. How do I overcome this ???
BobSacamento Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 I find the best way to overcome a woman I'm digging is to find another. It sounds like he's just keeping his options open and you are not high on his priority list. The women I speak to online that I'm digging I always get back to within 24 hours. You have to be very active online and really cast a wide net. You don't want to put 100% of your energy into one person and have them disappear because they found some else. And no your not pathetic I just think your using a poor strategy.
Author so gutted Posted March 15, 2009 Author Posted March 15, 2009 Anyone??? i have checked and he hasnt logged into the site or posted anything new on facebook. But would someone go so long without checking their hotmail???
Justin Briggs Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 It seems to me that he's just not that into you. If a guy likes you (or your pic) he will check his mail every 15 minutes to see if you wrote something (the same way you do). You need to get the hint and move on, and I would be less "trigger happy" about sending pics to guys online if you don't want them to get spread out through the internet. A good strategy would be to ask him to do something in return for a picture. For example: let him send a picture first. If he send you one only than you will send another one. Anyway - just let it go and move on. Guys who are into you are not "busy".
Author so gutted Posted March 15, 2009 Author Posted March 15, 2009 It seems to me that he's just not that into you. If a guy likes you (or your pic) he will check his mail every 15 minutes to see if you wrote something (the same way you do). You need to get the hint and move on, and I would be less "trigger happy" about sending pics to guys online if you don't want them to get spread out through the internet. A good strategy would be to ask him to do something in return for a picture. For example: let him send a picture first. If he send you one only than you will send another one. Anyway - just let it go and move on. Guys who are into you are not "busy". Yes - its so abvious. BUT - WHY did he give me his full real name? This enabled me to check his facebook and LinkedIn and for once I really fancy the guy. Also I think I first contacted him a year ago...he hasnt logged in all that time as I had him on my favourites. Why log in once intiate contact, give an Email address, ask for another picture to go stone cold? I have cast my net wide. I have got to the stage where I have reviewed almost every profile on this site. Is there anything else I can say to him on an Email ?
Lucky_One Posted March 15, 2009 Posted March 15, 2009 No. There is nothing else you can say to him in an email. He knows how to get in touch with you. If he wants to, he will.
voldigicam Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 emails get diverted & lost. Might try another route.
Girlygirl1977 Posted March 16, 2009 Posted March 16, 2009 The contact you have had and the avenue (online) is so minimal and honestly you have nothing strong going on here I have to say. If he is interested, he will find you. If he isn't interested enough, then likely he won't reach out. You shouldn't really be losing sleep over this given you initially contacted him 9 months. He just lobbed something over to you when he came back on. He obviously isn't a frequent user. You are setting yourself up for disappointment in pining away for him so early. Take a step back - this is not worth losing sleep over.
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