rainbowbrite Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 hey guys, so me n my bf broke up end of aug. he kept talken to me, but since i have going on these boards ive learnt that NC is the only way to be. so i ignored him for 4 solid months COMPLTELEY. and i was thinkn to myself, this will never get him to come back, if thats what i want. so i got up the nerve to call him last night, he called me back this morning. anyway, we ended up talken on the phone for 2.5 hours, and he was SO NICE, and sooo sweet, and friendly, and acted like he used to act wen we were dating. he even apologised to me and brought up past things slightly. he even told me that he was waiten for me to make the effort of getten back with him, but he thought thats not what i wanted, i told him i wanted to be friends, but i was lieing, and he believed me. i could of not had these months of heart break, if i just listened to myself, and called him to get him back and COMMUNICATED in the first place. this was all this huge miscommunication, and i am glad i did this. because he was very flirtatious, hittn on me, told me that he had a rebound after but would of dumped her for me. and this and that. i told him id call him later, and he was very opened to the idea. he told me he wasnt talking to me because he was respecting my wishes, cuz i told him not to... things r going well so far! but my advice is if nc is not working for u, call him up, you never know, and even if it looks desperate and rediculous, leave your pride at the door, because if getting back together is what you want, then go for it. go for what you want, and always listen to your heart. im just pissed i didnt do this sooner!
Surfer Dude Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 NC is a tool you use when you want to put distance between you and your ex because you want to heal, and because contact with that person is hurting you and is overall detrimental to your well being. It's certainly not something that you'd use to get your ex back, although it can serve that purpose sometimes. I think you got it all wrong.
Author rainbowbrite Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 NC is a tool you use when you want to put distance between you and your ex because you want to heal, and because contact with that person is hurting you and is overall detrimental to your well being. It's certainly not something that you'd use to get your ex back, although it can serve that purpose sometimes. I think you got it all wrong. ya imma dumbass. i really did want to heal from him tho, so i mean i went nc to get over it. but i felt redi to talk to him too. so i did. but i did think nc would make someone come back, but clearly it didnt
seductress989 Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 I think NC should be done for 60 days of ex detox and then its ok to contact the person. (have you seen or read "he's just not that into you") Why did you wait 4 months?
Author rainbowbrite Posted March 13, 2009 Author Posted March 13, 2009 I think NC should be done for 60 days of ex detox and then its ok to contact the person. (have you seen or read "he's just not that into you") Why did you wait 4 months? Ya that's so true. I actually have never read that, my friend did and told me she hated it lol. I waited 4 months, so I could think clearly what went on, and in my heart I thought if it was meant to be, this time apart won't even matter. And also, I did not want to go back out with him too soon because the problems would still arise, and I wanted to have time for ourselves. I think it has been positive, he actually called me himself now as well, just to chit chat. and he has been acting very flirtacious
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