I brokeup with my Bf, how do I move on and be single? When can I start dating again?

[FilipinoBeauty11]

Hey guys, im new to this loveshack forum, and I absolutely love the many views and opinions of people. The more I read here, the more it relates to me. Anywayz, I wanted to get your take on my own situation. I just brokeup with my BF last month, and I’m still having trouble getting over him. I keep having memories of the good times, and it’s very painful. I wanna know how do you become happy again when ive been in a relationship for so long? Do I have to stay single for awhile? Is it ok being single? And when’s a good time for me to be ready to get in a relationship again? If u wanna give me advice, can u put ur age, gender, and location. I wanna see if people around the world have some common beliefs. It would be pretty kool to see that even though we live very far from each other, that maybe we all think alike….

So here’s my stats

 

Location: Im from the Philippines

Age: Im 24

Sex: Female

[Enema]

Humans reinforce good memories and tend to forget bad ones. That's why it's so hard to get over someone, it's a lot easier to remember the good times.

 

Just focus on why you broke up in the first place.

 

I think it's fine to stay single.

I think you can date again whenever you feel like it.

 

28/m/Aus

[FilipinoBeauty11]

I know, everywhere i go, i have flashbacks on all the stuff we used to do...when i go to work, when im downtown, when im at school, when i go to the mall.....i try to put it away, but i can't make it stop

 

I know why i brokeup with him.....he was unwilling to comromise for me...i was sacrificing alot to be in the relationship, and he wouldn't return the favor....and i couldn't take it anymore

 

How long do i have to stay single? when do i know i should get back in the game? i dont' think anyone likes to stay single forever

[love_fool]

Hey guys, im new to this loveshack forum, and I absolutely love the many views and opinions of people. The more I read here, the more it relates to me. Anywayz, I wanted to get your take on my own situation. I just brokeup with my BF last month, and I’m still having trouble getting over him. I keep having memories of the good times, and it’s very painful. I wanna know how do you become happy again when ive been in a relationship for so long? Do I have to stay single for awhile? Is it ok being single? And when’s a good time for me to be ready to get in a relationship again? If u wanna give me advice, can u put ur age, gender, and location. I wanna see if people around the world have some common beliefs. It would be pretty kool to see that even though we live very far from each other, that maybe we all think alike….

So here’s my stats

 

Location: Im from the Philippines

Age: Im 24

Sex: Female

 

I'm Filipina too! And yeah, I just recently got out of a relationship of almost 2 years with my first love.

Hope we can relate to each other more

[FilipinoBeauty11]

I'm Filipina too! And yeah, I just recently got out of a relationship of almost 2 years with my first love.

Hope we can relate to each other more

 

2 years wow, must of meant alot. What happened?

[Marina09]

Hi! I'm from Miami, FL. I'm 20 years old and I'm a female. First of all, I know all this break up thing is hard. I'm broke up with my ex 2 months ago, 2 weeks ago he sent me a looong email saying that he loves me, and last friday I found out he has a new girlfriend. You can image how bad I feel about this situation! But let me tell you that even with all this pain in my heart I know it's temporary and I know there will be somebody that deserves all my love and that would give me the love I deserve. How long should you wait to start dating again? Personally I think it depends on how you feel about your ex and about your new lover. I think it would be better to heal all the wounds on your heart before thinking about starting over with someone. If somebody new comes to your life right now and makes you forget all about your ex I think it would be fine to date him, however if you just want to date someone to forget your ex and to avoid lonelinnes, that relationship won't work. The best thing that I do to feel better when I think about him, is go out, talk to friends and family, I enrolled in a gym to exercise, and of course I read this forum and articles on the internet to realize I'm not the only one going through a break up. Remember to love yourself before anyone else!!

 

Good luck to you, take care!

[love_fool]

2 years wow, must of meant alot. What happened?

 

He pretty much drained the life out of me, and then pushed away when he realized he had lots all his friends and ambitions. He dropped out of college and is having trouble looking for a full-time job.

 

He got sick of me, lost respect for me and my body, and pretty much I tried to hard to fix us but we would always get into arguments because he wasn't trying for us.

 

On the day we broke up he told, me "I still love you... but... it just has to happen. But, I have a small vision that there may be a chance for us in the future."

 

I'm so confused because I don't know how he can handle nothing doing anything in the day on his own time...

 

and I'm scared he'll move away

[love_fool]

Anyway, there is no set time for you to start dating again. By all means, I would wait until your heart is whole enough to give to someone else.

 

Maybe you might have a few hookups or rebounds here and there, but we're only human.

[EmperorR]

Hey Welcome, sorry that your going through this..

 

It takes time, there is no strict schedule when you will feel better and ready to date again. At first it feels very weird especially if you were in a relationship for a while to suddenly being single, doing what you want when you want don't have to sacrifice just putting yourself first:). Only you will know when your ready to date, there is no rush just take your time, I'm sure you don't want a rebound.

[FilipinoBeauty11]

Humans reinforce good memories and tend to forget bad ones. That's why it's so hard to get over someone, it's a lot easier to remember the good times.

 

Just focus on why you broke up in the first place.

 

I think it's fine to stay single.

I think you can date again whenever you feel like it.

 

28/m/Aus

 

"whenver you feel like it"

umm i dont understand, when is a good time? next week, next month?

[Artu]

"whenver you feel like it"

umm i dont understand, when is a good time? next week, next month?

 

 

The best time is when you feel like it .

 

You were answered the best way ..

 

 

You may do it tomorrow as well,

and no one has any right to order or command you .

Its your life . The only master - its you .

[FilipinoBeauty11]

Hi! I'm from Miami, FL. I'm 20 years old and I'm a female. First of all, I know all this break up thing is hard. I'm broke up with my ex 2 months ago, 2 weeks ago he sent me a looong email saying that he loves me, and last friday I found out he has a new girlfriend. You can image how bad I feel about this situation! But let me tell you that even with all this pain in my heart I know it's temporary and I know there will be somebody that deserves all my love and that would give me the love I deserve. How long should you wait to start dating again? Personally I think it depends on how you feel about your ex and about your new lover. I think it would be better to heal all the wounds on your heart before thinking about starting over with someone. If somebody new comes to your life right now and makes you forget all about your ex I think it would be fine to date him, however if you just want to date someone to forget your ex and to avoid lonelinnes, that relationship won't work. The best thing that I do to feel better when I think about him, is go out, talk to friends and family, I enrolled in a gym to exercise, and of course I read this forum and articles on the internet to realize I'm not the only one going through a break up. Remember to love yourself before anyone else!!

 

Good luck to you, take care!

 

hey good advice....but umm your advice to go out....what if all the places you like to go out was with your bf....it's especially difficult for me to workout because we used to workout together....what else do u suggest? i am kind of interested in somebody, but im worried it might just turn out to be a rebound guy, how do i know when it's not?

[FilipinoBeauty11]

He pretty much drained the life out of me, and then pushed away when he realized he had lots all his friends and ambitions. He dropped out of college and is having trouble looking for a full-time job.

 

He got sick of me, lost respect for me and my body, and pretty much I tried to hard to fix us but we would always get into arguments because he wasn't trying for us.

 

On the day we broke up he told, me "I still love you... but... it just has to happen. But, I have a small vision that there may be a chance for us in the future."

 

I'm so confused because I don't know how he can handle nothing doing anything in the day on his own time...

 

and I'm scared he'll move away

 

Yea i know how it feels when you try to fix a relationship and ur bf just doesn't care...It hurts, you picture how you bf is "supposed" to be, but he isn't...as for him saying there might be a chance... i suggest you don't take him back unless u know for certain he's changed..for you.... if not you'll just end up being hurt again

[FilipinoBeauty11]

Anyway, there is no set time for you to start dating again. By all means, I would wait until your heart is whole enough to give to someone else.

 

Maybe you might have a few hookups or rebounds here and there, but we're only human.

 

what do you mean by heart whole enough?

i was never a big fan of hookups/rebounds...it's not who i am....should u suggest i try?

[FilipinoBeauty11]

Hey Welcome, sorry that your going through this..

 

It takes time, there is no strict schedule when you will feel better and ready to date again. At first it feels very weird especially if you were in a relationship for a while to suddenly being single, doing what you want when you want don't have to sacrifice just putting yourself first:). Only you will know when your ready to date, there is no rush just take your time, I'm sure you don't want a rebound.

 

ummm, yea this new sense of freedom is kind of overrated...like we all do what we wanna do if we think about it...we choose to make other people happy, or we choose to be selfish....

i just dont wanna take too much time u kknow....what if im taking my time when the person of my dreams passes by, and i just take my time cuz i believe that's what im supposed to do

[FilipinoBeauty11]

The best time is when you feel like it .

 

You were answered the best way ..

 

 

You may do it tomorrow as well,

and no one has any right to order or command you .

Its your life . The only master - its you .

 

 

yea....but surely there has to be some way of knowin it's a good time...like is it a good time when i find somebody i think i will have a future with...is it when some guy suprises me? how will iknow?

[7117]

Just casually get back into going out dont jump feet first.Im 27/m usa and I have been the rebound guy before and it is not cool lol.Just go out and like the one person at the top said think about what made you break up when you start to missing the guy.That is the absolute truth we forget the bad stuff I recently got blown off buy a girl I liked for years but always put her on this high scale then one day I broke her down she was not better than me.Anyway take it one day at a time and don't sit and look at old pictures stay busy.Its gonna be fine.

[Touche]

I don't believe in the whole "rebound" thing. Just get back out when you feel ready or when you're interested in someone. If it's not meant to be then it's not meant to be and isn't right no matter if you broke up with your ex 3 years ago or 3 months ago.

 

I met my H (together 14 years) 3 DAYS after separating from my ex-H. So you never know when you're going to meet the love of your life.

[Marina09]

hey good advice....but umm your advice to go out....what if all the places you like to go out was with your bf....it's especially difficult for me to workout because we used to workout together....what else do u suggest? i am kind of interested in somebody, but im worried it might just turn out to be a rebound guy, how do i know when it's not?

 

Ummm, had the same problem... I read an article that said you should go to places you used to go with him with friends or family so you create a new memory around that place and you substitute the others. I guess this is kind of impossible, I went to my ex's favorite nightclub with friends and I was thinking about him all the time, the second time was a little better, and I guess it keeps getting better. About the workout, may be you should get a new workout partner. And about the guy, only you know if he is a rebound guy or something that can go a little farther...

[theraven]

Texas

18

Male

 

Why did you break up with him? Maybe I'm wrong, but to me, if it's been a month and you can't get over him, then you still love him and want to be with him! You're having trouble getting over him because you shouldn't have broke up with him and you still want to be with him! But really, why did you dump him? maybe if i know why then I'll understand more..