Beautiful Inside Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 ok my bf and i have been dating for almost 2 years now he proposed to me after 5 1/2 months on last vday and since then we've had our share of fights where i have moved out and moved back in a few different times..... he's selling his house now and i still haven't moved back in but i stay the night and all my stuff is at my parents house which thankfully they live down the street from his house.... so its not too much of a hassle to go back n forth for clothes and stuff....however since he's selling his house i found him this new home in palm springs really cute 2 bed 2 baths townhouse 3 story top has a balcony with a fireplace really cute and cozy....well he hasnt asked me to move in with him and i just need a guys point of view on this .....do you think he will eventually ask me to move in with him?...or did i blow it for myself by moving out so many times before.... also i dont have the engagement ring anymore he never gave it back to me after so many of out fights....he also doesnt refer to me as his fiance either just gf....
Bleeve Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Sounds like at the very least that he wants to take it slow. He still calls you his gf which is a good sign. I believe in open communication in a relationship and see no harm in asking him how he is feeling about everything and if he is scared to fully commit again.
Author Beautiful Inside Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 it sucks to know how far youve grown with someone and now it feels like were taking steps back....does that ever seem to work out for couples taking steps back?
Author Beautiful Inside Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 plus ok check this out here is the big dilemma where hes moving to is literally 40 min drive from where my parents live and my job so i wont b able to stay the night then drive 40 min home in the morning and then drive 40 min back to go to work after in the same day u know....i really hopes he takes all that into consideration....
Frankasy Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Not ring, doesn't consider you his fiance, too many move outs and move ins, hasn't invited you to live with him (yet). On the other side, he considers you his gf. Right now you're probably on the end of the line, unless you do something to re-earn his trust and love(Presuming you do love him) back, start counting the days you have left with him. If you don't act now, he's probably gonna go NC with you and the next thing you'll find out is that he' dating other women.
Author Beautiful Inside Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 wow just like that even though i havent ever done him wrong...we just fight alot over stupid **** but omg him seeing other people never even crossed my mind....really?....
Frankasy Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 wow just like that even though i havent ever done him wrong...we just fight alot over stupid **** but omg him seeing other people never even crossed my mind....really?.... Hmmm that's the last step, first of all I need to ask, are you too very close with each other? Depending on how close you are, he'll put a fight not to give you up but like I said, if you don't act fast his patience will eventually end.
SRV Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 The move-in, move-outs might have cast a serious doubt in his mind about the trust and commitment to the relationship. With every move-out, a part of someone's trust for one goes with it.
Author Beautiful Inside Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 were so close omg we never want to b apart from each other i mean recently things have become different like hell b on the computer a lot more but i think thats normal for guys u know after being with someone for some time... but we do everything together. he invites me to hang out with his guy friends still n all...
Frankasy Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Yeah well life's like that, out of the blue a big boom happens, you go from the top to the bottom. Never say never, keep that in mind.
SRV Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Try to find better ways of communicating when you hit the bump in the road instead of bolting out. Its easier to stick around when the going is easy and fun as opposed to when times get tough, which are the defining moments in a relationship. GL
clv0116 Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 If I asked and you said no, I'd move on. Can't say anything beyond that.
Author Beautiful Inside Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 no he hasn't re asked me to move in u know..... we kind of just got use to me just staying the night there but i got home in the morning to my parents who live across the street form his house....but now he's moving like 40-45 min away and its like i have to either move in or break nit off cus im not going to be driving back n forth everyday twice a day cause i work in palm springs too now....what i need help on is wondering if he'll ask me to move in with him to this new place in april..... : /
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