Lucky555 Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 I have found myself giving out my number to my dates but after I'm not interested i don't want to hear from them so I am thinking about giving my email address instead. Most of the time i am interested but as you all know it takes dating to get to know them and see if you click. What do you all think? E-mail address? Right now a lot of guys have my number and I don't want to give it out any more. Sometimes i hear back from them later on and I don't like that. Are there any other methods you all have used?
PrincessPeach Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Do you use MSN or AIM online messengers very often or at all? Of course you could probably expect them to still contact you through the way you give them two weeks later, so I don't know if it's the phone specifically that bothers you or if the contacting itself. Because the contacting probably isn't going to disappear just because you changed the way you make contact,
Art_Critic Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Why not just tell them you are not interested and save yourself and them the trouble of playing games ? or just give them your phone number and the next time you talk you tell them the truth that you don't see a connection with them.. wish them the best and say good bye...
Author Lucky555 Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 the contact does bother me from people im NOT interested in and it also bothers me that so many guys have my number! Maybe there is not way around this.
Frankasy Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 the contact does bother me from people im NOT interested in and it also bothers me that so many guys have my number! Maybe there is not way around this. Ok um maybe I misread something but can't you just tell them that you're not interested and you're not gonna give them your number?
Author Lucky555 Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 Why not just tell them you are not interested and save yourself and them the trouble of playing games ? or just give them your phone number and the next time you talk you tell them the truth that you don't see a connection with them.. wish them the best and say good bye... Yeah I did and they still contact me later on even though i say things are not going to work. I don't answer and I'm not responding to any texts. I don't want to talk them either.
Author Lucky555 Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 Ok um maybe I misread something but can't you just tell them that you're not interested and you're not gonna give them your number? well at first if i am interested in the guy i will go on a couple of dates and i give my number so we can arrange things. Obviously i date them then if i dont see it going any where i say its not going to work..BUT then i hear from them a few months later. This has happened with most of the men i have dated..its been lately. guy 1: contacts via aim-easy block him guy 2: contact via text-dont answer guy 3: text/call-dont answer Its really annoying when they call or text! It has not been too bad but still its unsettling. Right now im just really lazy with dating so i wont be giving out my number too soon
Art_Critic Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Yeah I did and they still contact me later on even though i say things are not going to work. I don't answer and I'm not responding to any texts. I don't want to talk them either. they sound like idiots if they call after you have told them things are not going to work.. Have you tried answering the phone and tell them to not call your number anymore ?
Frankasy Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 well at first if i am interested in the guy i will go on a couple of dates and i give my number so we can arrange things. Obviously i date them then if i dont see it going any where i say its not going to work..BUT then i hear from them a few months later. This has happened with most of the men i have dated..its been lately. guy 1: contacts via aim-easy block him guy 2: contact via text-dont answer guy 3: text/call-dont answer Its really annoying when they call or text! It has not been too bad but still its unsettling. Right now im just really lazy with dating so i wont be giving out my number too soon Hmm than I suggest you be more careful when selecting guys you decide to give your number too. Than again, it happens to everyone so not answering is the best way.
Art_Critic Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 I'm always for the direct, nice approach to these types of things... Some people can take an inch and make it a mile in instances of rejection.. they can take a phrase such as " see you later " to mean that you want to talk.. Direct... Be kind but leave no door open to a guy that you don't want to date again...
LoveLace Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Yea I think this is unavoidable...because more times than not you are interested at 1st, then when your'e not, you are stuck dealing with the fact that they are calling you. I just try not to sound interested and many times that is enough to make the calling stop; but not always; sometimes I have to just say I'm not interested. I met a guy a couple of weeks ago that I thought was cool, but not too attractive. But that doesn't always mean anything right, so I let him kiss me and it was really gross. Kissing him was so gross that I knew I was just not attracted for sure; but he already had my # by then. I've already ignored 1 text since then; last night he texted me at 11:30pm to join him at a bar, so I said, no thanks because I get up at 4:30am (truth)...then he says, "I thought you were off on Thursdays?'...even more annoying, after knowing me for 1 night he seemed to think he knew my schedule. I just texted back, "Nope.". And he left it alone. If interested, I probably would have suggested another night to meet up, but I didn't, so I'm hoping he gets the hint...if not, I move on to Plan B and just say, I'm not interested, or I'm dating someone if I think that's necessary. Would it be rude to say, "I don't give out my phone number very much, but may I have yours?"...because nowadays, soon as you call someone they have caller ID and will get your # that way. I've done this before actually, and the guy didn't think much of it...he gave me his # right away; and since I really wasn't interested, I didn't have to worry about him calling me.
Author Lucky555 Posted March 13, 2009 Author Posted March 13, 2009 I guess there is no way around it in dating. I think its hard to know what a guy is like when you first meet them and get to know them. A guy that had recently contacted me had some stalkerish behavior when i was dating him. He seemed controlling, always asked where i was, and we were only dating. So as you all see i want to avoid this type but its hard because you just dont know! So I think if i am the least bit interested hes getting my email. Unless i am really really interested. I will gauge my interest on a level of 1-10. 1 being not at all and 10 being an amazing guy. 10's will get it. I'm not basing this on physical appearance alone either. Think i just fixed the problem
Peter_pan Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 simple. you get there number. then you can decide. tell them you dont have your phone on you. and dont no the number as its a new phone
BobSacamento Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 I think at the start I would be more comfortable with email. Personally I hate talking on the phone. So you would be a perfect date haha.
samiam143 Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 Why not just tell them you are not interested and save yourself and them the trouble of playing games ? Amen. Emails are the easy way out. If you're not interested, be a grown up and say so. Simple as that. They aren't going to lose sleep over it.
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