mr.dream merchant Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Would you prefer to commit to a woman who puts out easily or one who doesn't put out so easy?
GoodOnPaper Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Me, too. I know that goes against conventional wisdom, but I would be more likely to write off someone for not being interested if she is playing a hard-to-get game in that regard. Showing real physical interest early is important as I have rarely seen that from women.
Sam Spade Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 This is a kinda dumb question, because she could put, or not put out, for very different reasons . It's not 'whether', but 'why' I would commit to one that puts out easily because she likes sex, feels no quilt over having casual sex, and is mature enough to understand that sex is not something for her to "give". This one is a keeper. I would not commit to one that puts out easily because she's insecure, has self-esteem issues, or is just all-around skank. I would commit to one that does not put out easily because she is very picky in men. I would not commit to one that does not put out easily because she's manipulative, controlling bitch. There.
tanbark813 Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 I think it's a loaded question but I'd go with easily.
Sam Spade Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Yeah, spread the word guys. The easiest way to ensure that a man is happy (and therefore - more likely to commit) is to eff him on a regular basis. Treating sex as something to be carefully dispensed in miniature doses, only motivates men to look elsewhere .
Stockalone Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Would you prefer to commit to a woman who puts out easily or one who doesn't put out so easy? The one who doesn't put out easily.
prettybaby Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Wait, what do you mean "put out easily"? Do you mean a girl who'd sleep with you after just a few dates, or a girl who would sleep with you every day after you two are already in a relationship?
Stockalone Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Wait, what do you mean "put out easily"? Do you mean a girl who'd sleep with you after just a few dates, or a girl who would sleep with you every day after you two are already in a relationship? That is how I understood the question.
Enema Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 That is how I understood the question. Same, otherwise he should have used the word "frequently".
prettybaby Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 That is how I understood the question. me too, but then I got confused when I read the responses
CommitmentPhobe Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 It's so far down the list it can't even be a preference. What's the significance to the relationship whether she has a liberated or traditional attitude towards sex? You're still going to end up doing it on a regular basis either way.
Sam Spade Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Wait, what do you mean "put out easily"? Do you mean a girl who'd sleep with you after just a few dates, or a girl who would sleep with you every day after you two are already in a relationship? He meant the former, but it strongly correlates with the latter - a woman who is uptight about sex in the beginning stages of a relationship is very likly going to be just as uptight about it once in the relationship (and no healthy guy wants to deal with that.).
BCCA Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 It's so far down the list it can't even be a preference. What's the significance to the relationship whether she has a liberated or traditional attitude towards sex? You're still going to end up doing it on a regular basis either way. Not true, neccesarily. I agree, I would be more inclined to commit to someone who I had sex with after 3-4 dates, or even just more than one. If we have sex on the first date, I would probably hesitate to commit, but I think a precedence is set when you have sex. I would be much more interested in someone who I slept with within the first month.
CommitmentPhobe Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 I agree, I would be more inclined to commit to someone who I had sex with after 3-4 dates, or even just more than one. If we have sex on the first date, I would probably hesitate to commit, but I think a precedence is set when you have sex. . Well it depends on what meaning you assign to that. It's not very high on my agenda because to me it's just one of those "social rules people abide by because someone told them to" rather than anything significant.
fishtaco Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 I would commit to one that puts out easily because she likes sex, feels no quilt over having casual sex, and is mature enough to understand that sex is not something for her to "give". This one is a keeper. I would not commit to one that puts out easily because she's insecure, has self-esteem issues, or is just all-around skank. I would commit to one that does not put out easily because she is very picky in men. I would not commit to one that does not put out easily because she's manipulative, controlling bitch. There. Excellent post. The sex doesn't matter, it's just an act. But it may provide a window to the inner workings of a woman, and that is where it matters. But you're giving away our secret. We're supposed to make women believe that if they put out too early, that means they're not worthy. I'll see you back in the men's secret mission control base for your re-education.
BCCA Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Well it depends on what meaning you assign to that. It's not very high on my agenda because to me it's just one of those "social rules people abide by because someone told them to" rather than anything significant. True, and each case is differently. I guess my main point is that I want someone who A) is sexual enough to realize it IS an important part of the relationship, and B) doesnt use it to manipulate me. Anyone who has a minimum number of dates, or other requirements ('not until you meet my parents/tell me you love me/etc') is going to lose my interest very quickly. It should just happen when the time comes. Im also not keen on girls who strip down to their underwear and say they dont want to have sex (no offense to anyone here). To me, thats just lame and sort of immature.
Stockalone Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Well it depends on what meaning you assign to that. It's not very high on my agenda because to me it's just one of those "social rules people abide by because someone told them to" rather than anything significant. True. it depends on what it means to you. I think that if a woman would sleep with me after only a few dates (when she hardly knows me), she is not very discerning and has done the same with other men before. Maybe she is currently dating and sleeping with other men as well. And I don't share my woman, hence I need a woman who has similar values. So I look for a woman who waits until we are exclusive to have sex.
fral945 Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 All else being equal, puts out easily is much preferred.
JerseyShortie Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 I'll see you back in the men's secret mission control base for your re-education Message to the ladies: You can't win either way. Damned if we do, damned if we don't.
tanbark813 Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Message to the ladies: You can't win either way. Damned if we do, damned if we don't. Ahh, JS, forever the pessimist. From what I can see, the responses span the range of easily to not easily. So whatever your personal feelings are on the matter, you're guaranteed to find at least one guy who agrees.
JerseyShortie Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Pessmists apparently live longer because of their innate sense of protection.
boxing123 Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 You know who does NOT put out easily? Usually A. Girls have have put out way more than others in the past, and the guy leaves quickly. B. Girls who value all of their own worth on sex. And I do not mean a woman should put out with every guy easily... They just need some common sense. Some intuition. If the guy likes you, and you like him, then let it flow. Many women on here specifically state they WILL NOT have sex quickly with a guy they like, but will put out easily for guys they DO NOT like. Sounds ridiculous, but I find this to be true also.
Author mr.dream merchant Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 Well to clarify easily, one who puts out on the first date to be exact. Or one who just throws it in your arms without the smallest bit of a charming smile or nice wordplay from you. I'd commit to a girl who isn't a prude yes, but one who doesn't put out easily isn't a prude. I meant one who doesn't put out easily in a sense that she gets a feel for you after a couple of days. One who barely knows you and ****s you is what I meant by puts out easily. Now what are your answers?
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